olafthewise
Active Member
wow, 70...keep the momentum going. After awhile, the lifestyle becomes easy.
Five year no PMO journey
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Yeah, it's all rather incredible, actually, to wake up at 70 years old with a solid morning wood, or to get it up and keep it up to my wife's and my total satisfaction.
It does get easier but it is not fully gone, so I come back here from time to time to remind myself about what happened and what it did to me and those around me.
882 days no PMO. That's hundreds of days of sexual health. I will never reset that counter.
-jj
It does get easier but it is not fully gone, so I come back here from time to time to remind myself about what happened and what it did to me and those around me.
882 days no PMO. That's hundreds of days of sexual health. I will never reset that counter.
-jj
I don't think you need a degree or a whole lot of science to figure out that if you cut hours of masturbating to porn out of your daily life that your productivity will improve. Financial? not so obvious, except for the productivity lapse that can cost you your job.
I remember "just a couple of minutes" becoming an hour and then two without my even noticing. Two and a half hours -- man, that clock must be wrong ... mid-morning and I have done nothing ... can anyone relate?
I remember "just a couple of minutes" becoming an hour and then two without my even noticing. Two and a half hours -- man, that clock must be wrong ... mid-morning and I have done nothing ... can anyone relate?
switched_off_again
Member
Just to echo all of the above. Thanks for coming back and bringing your success story back up to the top of the page. It is inspiring.
I'm 10 months in to this rollercoaster ride and have had various degrees of success. But this is all within the context of doubt that a fullfilling sex life is a possibility what with my PMO skewed vision of what a fulfilling sex life should be, other life pressures and knowing that my wife at 50 has changes of her own to work through. Your story helps alot - great to hear of a couple on the other side that are content.
I'm 10 months in to this rollercoaster ride and have had various degrees of success. But this is all within the context of doubt that a fullfilling sex life is a possibility what with my PMO skewed vision of what a fulfilling sex life should be, other life pressures and knowing that my wife at 50 has changes of her own to work through. Your story helps alot - great to hear of a couple on the other side that are content.
A unexpected benefit is that since I have rediscovered my masculinity and my performance has been restored, my wife has found a new level of horniness, absent for many years now (she just turned 68). We have sex now every week and I wake with morning woods a few times a week. It is 981 days and still counting.
As Lyon says, "Porn is not an option". Stick with the program.
As Lyon says, "Porn is not an option". Stick with the program.
1000 days no PMO ... a moment to reflect
The fact that I am still counting says something. You have to stay vigilant when fighting an addiction, and that is a lifelong challenge. I have not PMO in 1000 days but I am still wary of the old triggers -- wife away for a few days, stuff like that. The intensity of the urge is gone -- it is just a memory now. Still, it is reassuring to come back to this site, where I learned how to take control over that addiction.
I read your posts and I know the pain and heartbreak in there and want to give you big hugs and reassure you that there is a way out. Looking at my old posts, I follow the path from a limp-dick 67 year-old who had been giving his wife second chair to some fake reality to a healthy 70 year old man with an active and healthy conjugal life and who wakes up with strong manhood almost every morning.
70, I never thought it would be possible. Every time I pass a mirror I look at it and say to myself "yeah, I beat it!". You all can, too. The program works. Stick with it!
-JJ
The fact that I am still counting says something. You have to stay vigilant when fighting an addiction, and that is a lifelong challenge. I have not PMO in 1000 days but I am still wary of the old triggers -- wife away for a few days, stuff like that. The intensity of the urge is gone -- it is just a memory now. Still, it is reassuring to come back to this site, where I learned how to take control over that addiction.
I read your posts and I know the pain and heartbreak in there and want to give you big hugs and reassure you that there is a way out. Looking at my old posts, I follow the path from a limp-dick 67 year-old who had been giving his wife second chair to some fake reality to a healthy 70 year old man with an active and healthy conjugal life and who wakes up with strong manhood almost every morning.
70, I never thought it would be possible. Every time I pass a mirror I look at it and say to myself "yeah, I beat it!". You all can, too. The program works. Stick with it!
-JJ
Pete McVries
Active Member
I'm turning 32 years old today and recently beat my 12 year long PIED. 200 clean days are in grasp. 1000 clean days, that is insane old man. You are an absolute inspiration! Reading a 70 years old man write about morning wood and satisfying sex made me smile ;D. They say you can't teach an old dog new tricks but you proved them wrong, I'd say. 
All the best!
All the best!
Day 1095 since I posted my first journal entry. That's three years today!
Three years ago I had no idea what today would look like. I could not imagine myself as free of performance anxiety, able to have and sustain an erection to my wife's (and my) renewed and maximum pleasure, and looking forward to celebrating my upcoming 71st birthday as all the man I ever wanted to be. Far cry from the guy who could hardly get it up 3 years. ago.
It was not easy, but it was simple. The trick - follow the program. I wrote often and in some detail in this journal on a regular basis, especially through the first crucial months. Listened to those who reached out to help. Counted days to keep a tangible target. Sought out and removed those things that triggered negative behavior. And revisiting this site from time to time for reassurance.
It works, keep with the program. Quoting Lyon03 "Porn s not an option"
Three years ago I had no idea what today would look like. I could not imagine myself as free of performance anxiety, able to have and sustain an erection to my wife's (and my) renewed and maximum pleasure, and looking forward to celebrating my upcoming 71st birthday as all the man I ever wanted to be. Far cry from the guy who could hardly get it up 3 years. ago.
It was not easy, but it was simple. The trick - follow the program. I wrote often and in some detail in this journal on a regular basis, especially through the first crucial months. Listened to those who reached out to help. Counted days to keep a tangible target. Sought out and removed those things that triggered negative behavior. And revisiting this site from time to time for reassurance.
It works, keep with the program. Quoting Lyon03 "Porn s not an option"
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cranm329
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Well done. Thanks for the advice and encouragement. Have a happy birthday.
Checking in at year 3.5.
In this terrible time of global confinement and self-isolation, the urge to slip from a reboot cannot be more difficult. But keep in mind that there is all the man you ever wanted to be at the other side of the tunnel.
It is a good fight. Keep writing about your thoughts, keep counting days and reset if you slip, there is only one direction to go. As lyon03 says, porn is not an option.
-jj
day 1290 no PMO.
In this terrible time of global confinement and self-isolation, the urge to slip from a reboot cannot be more difficult. But keep in mind that there is all the man you ever wanted to be at the other side of the tunnel.
It is a good fight. Keep writing about your thoughts, keep counting days and reset if you slip, there is only one direction to go. As lyon03 says, porn is not an option.
-jj
day 1290 no PMO.
I woke up in the middle of the night with a raging hardon. Four years ago, I couldn't get past limp, no matter what. It has been 1350 days no PMO and that is a very small part of the reward. I went back to sleep with a smile.
Funny thing, I can't even masturbate now if I try, you know, the occasional extra soap in the shower thing just does seem to get it up any more. I never heard anyone else mention that. But the moment my wife and I share "that look", I spring to attention. The real reward of this program is getting back my married life like it once was. I don't miss jerking off.
Yeah, it took a few years to get here. But the healing started within 90 days of the reboot so there were early positive signs and the ability to sustain an erection started to return fairly soon after. Like any addiction, there is temptation to sway, but you have to fight it.
So stick with the program. it works! Whatever your age. I am 71 years old, going strong. Maybe we'll make a few fireworks later ...
-jj
Funny thing, I can't even masturbate now if I try, you know, the occasional extra soap in the shower thing just does seem to get it up any more. I never heard anyone else mention that. But the moment my wife and I share "that look", I spring to attention. The real reward of this program is getting back my married life like it once was. I don't miss jerking off.
Yeah, it took a few years to get here. But the healing started within 90 days of the reboot so there were early positive signs and the ability to sustain an erection started to return fairly soon after. Like any addiction, there is temptation to sway, but you have to fight it.
So stick with the program. it works! Whatever your age. I am 71 years old, going strong. Maybe we'll make a few fireworks later ...
-jj