Today I turned 68 years old and 114 days with no PMO. I thought this would be a good time to reflect on this short journey.
It was only 10 years ago that I first saw any porn and discovered the power of combining that with high speed internet and pants down. As my wife?s libido slowed down, I saw MO and PMO as a way to ?keep the plumbing operational and healthy?. Instead, the opposite happened as PIED and performance anxiety gradually took over.
By last fall and I could hardly achieve an erection, or, if I did, it didn?t last long enough for intercourse. I was seriously considering talking to my doctor about getting some prescription help. The anxiety of not being able to perform became self-fulfilling and even masturbation was no longer working. My wife was sympathetic to my declining performance but she had no notion of why this was happening. I suspect she thought that is normal for a guy in his late 60s.
Somehow I stumbled on this site last fall. After 10 solid years of regular PMO, I decided to eliminate all the triggers I could control (even physically cutting off the cord on my webcam). The struggle began. Slowly and surely, signs of normal functioning began to return ? morning woods after a month and successful intercourse a month later. Even my wife has rediscovered a certain desire for sex as my performance has begun improving. And, of course, my productivity has improved enormously as well since I just do not waste all that time anymore. I continue fighting the temptation to relapse ? the urges still tempt me when I am alone in the house ? but I have to resist them ? it seems to be getting a bit easier over time. And the prize is worth it.
I read the journals and posted regularly at the beginning and received a lot of feedback. The support from the guys here has been tremendous ? you have kept me on track when I felt so much like straying. While this might all sound like pride, I am writing now to encourage others to stick with the program, that the promised outcomes are, indeed, possible.
It?s not finished for me; it may never be. I need to fight those alone moments and work on my sexual endurance and allow these new habits to carve their patterns into my brain. But, with your help, I have begun to turn this thing around and I hope I can help others as you have helped me. Many thanks.
-JJ