Ooh, goth! (Can I call you that? What do you prefer?) you replied as I was writing my journal! That sounds like a lot of fun, I love co-op board games. Thing is I never grew up with any, they were always competitive. That also sounds like a reverse version of Infiltration where you infiltrate a scientific facility where it's sort of co-op to begin with, but there's only one winner. Report's gonna be slightly different today I think:
Day 8:
Fairly similar day to yesterday, sans the board game fun
Big long drive to do mah deliveries, long, boring, hot and as usual too much thinking time. However, despite my old mental pitfalls regarding my addiction trying to haunt me I think since being more active on this forum I've become much more effective at shutting them down and rationalising them, helping me reduce stress and relax. So I've been a little anxious today, but I've managed it overall.
I think the big thing to mention is this thread I just read thanks to skrodriguez:
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0
It's all about our view on addiction and rebooting, and has some massively helpful advice. It's a long thread, but DEFINITELY worth a read for anyone who's serious about this shit. It's all about treating the addiction seriously, and getting to the route of the cause, rather than just shooting for a 90 day target. Make a life change, that's what's missing from the cycle we've become stuck in. I have to say it hit rather close to home. It's quite late now, but tomorrow I think I'll start working on that there life plan.
It also mentions how it's helpful to focus on your life, rather than beating your addiction. In fact try not to think about the addiction at all, 'monk mode' so to speak. To that end, it's not helpful to mention porn, cravings, relapse etc.
I've added a spreadsheet to my signature (Find out how to set up your own here: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?PHPSESSID=e9a7d94952c1eb7c9a92aaf31351a29f&topic=14584.0 ). When you have a day counter (And I'm rather guilty of this myself... completely guilty) you get so focused with your winning streak, when it's not about hitting a target, it's about eliminating our old addictions and building a new life. When you go back to day 0 it's demoralizing if your target is (for example) a 90 day streak. Many a time I've thought to myself "It's day 0, who cares if I PMO now". But the truth is, by cutting down from 25 Os a month to 6 or 7, you're already winning. This way relapse will be far less likely to trigger a binge. That said, there's never a reason for you to greenlight a PMO.
I'm just re-iterating some of the parts that stuck out to me, but you should all definitely give it a read.
Things I'm grateful for today:
Day 8:
Fairly similar day to yesterday, sans the board game fun
Big long drive to do mah deliveries, long, boring, hot and as usual too much thinking time. However, despite my old mental pitfalls regarding my addiction trying to haunt me I think since being more active on this forum I've become much more effective at shutting them down and rationalising them, helping me reduce stress and relax. So I've been a little anxious today, but I've managed it overall.
I think the big thing to mention is this thread I just read thanks to skrodriguez:
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0
It's all about our view on addiction and rebooting, and has some massively helpful advice. It's a long thread, but DEFINITELY worth a read for anyone who's serious about this shit. It's all about treating the addiction seriously, and getting to the route of the cause, rather than just shooting for a 90 day target. Make a life change, that's what's missing from the cycle we've become stuck in. I have to say it hit rather close to home. It's quite late now, but tomorrow I think I'll start working on that there life plan.
It also mentions how it's helpful to focus on your life, rather than beating your addiction. In fact try not to think about the addiction at all, 'monk mode' so to speak. To that end, it's not helpful to mention porn, cravings, relapse etc.
I've added a spreadsheet to my signature (Find out how to set up your own here: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?PHPSESSID=e9a7d94952c1eb7c9a92aaf31351a29f&topic=14584.0 ). When you have a day counter (And I'm rather guilty of this myself... completely guilty) you get so focused with your winning streak, when it's not about hitting a target, it's about eliminating our old addictions and building a new life. When you go back to day 0 it's demoralizing if your target is (for example) a 90 day streak. Many a time I've thought to myself "It's day 0, who cares if I PMO now". But the truth is, by cutting down from 25 Os a month to 6 or 7, you're already winning. This way relapse will be far less likely to trigger a binge. That said, there's never a reason for you to greenlight a PMO.
I'm just re-iterating some of the parts that stuck out to me, but you should all definitely give it a read.
Things I'm grateful for today:
- A fantastic new outlook on this whole process.
- Knowing and proving that I'm stronger than my demons.
- Internet friends.
- Good radio and good music
- Accountabillabuddy