@tostadora, thanks for posting, and I am humbled that you have taken time to read the entire thread. Thanks.
Your question is about withdrawals. There is no getting around them, if you are addicted and quitting. We have conditioned ourselves to want that dopamine high and our brains will punish us when we deny it that. The thing I suggest people do is make friends of the withdrawals. They are actually a good sign, incredibly hellish, but a good sign. They mean your brain is protesting you not feeding the addiction. I suppose, in the beginning, when I was first quitting, I created the mental mind trick of loving them, even though they felt so bad, in order NOT to avoid them. There is no substitute for porn abuse, it is a one of a kind high. Just know that the withdrawals fade away, and eventually disappear. Do the hard 90. They don't call it the easy 90.
The Wilson vid is key. Why? It tells you what porn does to your brain. That is important to know when you are quitting it. It is a simple, straight forward, brain chemical reaction to hypersexual thoughts, aka porn. Porn is the button we push for a dopamine high. My advice is, do not quit porn to fix your life. Rather, quit porn first, then deal with your other problems. Quitting porn is difficult enough to do alone, it is much more difficult if it is part of a holistic "I am making a better me" approach. Narrow what you are doing to "quitting porn"; after 90 days hard mode, if you have done it right, I promise you the other problems will not seem so big. Now that you are in the group who is not negotiating, you will understand that any concern about fixing any other problems than the porn problem is just the disease trying to make itself bigger, so big that you can't fix it or believe you can't. Keep the problem small, stimulus and response, keep the solution small, no stimulus, no response, and you will have better success beating it. I like all of the ideas you have listed for helping recover. Don't forget avoiding hypersexual thoughts. Remember, for the addict quitting, porn is not just porn, it is whatever image triggers a hypersexual thought, it is no image at all, but just letting a fantasy run around in there. Avoid a dopamine spike as much as possible.
@Cyrus, remember that porn abuse, addiction, and recovery are 100% about the brain, 100% in the head. Quitting, while I can give you some tips, is ultimately a personal "choice". When it feels like you must relapse, you have to choose to do so, or not. Put another way, you have to choose to endure the torture of withdrawals, or not. Knowing those feelings are withdrawals, and knowing that is necessary to reboot and rebalance, helped me. I felt like hell but on another level, I knew it was a good thing. Just know, if you can hold until 90, it will get easier. On a more practical note, we all have sexual thoughts, but the key, during the reboot, is to not let them grow into fantasy, not to indulge them. This will sound stupid, but you must plan on how you are going to kill that one second thought before it becomes a 10 minute dopamine fest. You have to plan on it, you have to have a distraction pre planned. For me it was making a tusk tusk tusk sound by sucking my tongue off the roof of my mouth. Any time I thought a hypersexual thought that was lasting more than a second, I did that. Sounds stupid, I know, that those three little sounds distracted me, and made the thought stop. Others report wearing a rubber band and snapping it every time they have a thought. Just a little, sharp, something to kill the thought before it grows. I have done the tusk distraction hundreds of time a day in the beginning. Now? I never do, and I can't remember the last time I did, but in the beginning, you must be prepared and plan on having little distractions like that. The fact that you have made it three weeks tells me your will power is pretty strong, but don't just do will power, consciously plan on ways to kill those thoughts before they grow. By the time you get to the end of the hard 90, you probably won't need a technique like that anymore.
Remember, keep going, porn is not an option. There are two types of guys here, the first type, nice guys, are addicts in denial. They don't like porn, they may hate it, but they are addicted to the dopamine high it gives them, and they are here hoping to find a way to control it, but not give it up. They will fail. The other type is the guy who knows porn has become their master, and they don't want to have a master anymore. They have quit porn, expelled it, excommunicated it, defriended it, they don't pal around with it any more, don't play with it, don't keep it in their house, are not nice to it, hate it, avoid it, they don't take its calls anymore. Those guys are going to get free. You, reading this, only you can know which group you are in. You have built your chains one link at a time, don't blame anyone but you. Own it. Now, decide who you are. Are you a guy who is trying to wear his chains fashionably, or are you a guy who is taking them off? I'll tell you this, no matter how fashionably you try to make those chains fashionable, you still look like a slave in them. I invite you to quit negotiating with the disease, tell it to fuck itself, and come to this side of clean. You can do it. You can.
Peace.
WillianOneAndDone.