Orbiter said:
Stepbystep - Activities & hobbies are the way to go. The irritating thing is I have many of them but the time, motivation & energy to engage in them is always so low. It's crazy isn't it how we can justify PMOing for hours at a time & trawling through pointless garbage on the internet but our brains immediately rebel at the thought of doing something actually worthwhile that requires a bit of effort & discipline for even half an hour. I guess this is where an adulthood of instant gratification gets us...
This is basically what I struggle with all the time. Vicious cycle. One thing that has helped me is reading a book called Atomic Habits. Basically the author says to worry less about setting goals and more about changing your daily structure to 'feed' the goals you want to achieve. So if you want to learn Spanish, start by doing 5 minutes a day, and slowly build it up over time. In terms of the problem above, you want to start adding other hobbies and activities in a small way at first so they don't seem too much. This has worked okay for me so far. About a year ago I really wanted to get into music production but basically had done nothing, even though I had spent a fortune on gear. It was really frustrating. But since reading that book, and starting with a few minutes a day, I'm now up to an hour or two a day and am making real progress. It's now a proper hobby for me and is taking up a fair amount of my free time, which I might otherwise be using to look at porn.
It is really weird and dumb that we need help to enjoy our hobbies, but I think that is a result of the porn numbing our enjoyment for things like this that aren't so instantly gratifying.