DeltaFosAware
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My need even to masturbate now is pretty much absent. I don't set a timer but I reckon the last time I fapped to Porn must have been about eight weeks ago. Even then that was not part of a pattern of 'continued and frequent use.'
The symptoms of stress you are feeling are quite normal. To my mind the problem was only with the Porn and not the masturbation. I know some people need to avoid BOTH to reboot but I can still use masturbation as a form of sexual relief but I resist using it to self soothe or self comfort. If I feel I need to do that, there must be other issues behind the need, than simple physical relief! I would want to investigate these as well.
Certainly I 100% agree Porn induced ED is a product of regular porn use. As somebody rightly says on another thread 'porn teaches us to have sex with our eyes!' That makes TOTAL SENSE. The link is visual imagery, variety of novel visual and audio images, direct connection from eyes to penis! Notice how quickly you loose the ability to get an erection just by 'thinking about your partner.' The only way you'll restablish that physical connection is by touch, smell, sight and feel. What's more is focusing not just on YOU but your partner. The screen does not touch you, respond to you, ask anything of you...Your human partner will and frankly, at first that's a bit much to handle. They will need much patience with you as you slowly resume the closeness.
What I have noticed over time is an ability to become errect just being near my partner in bed. I think that is a physical association with warmth, fragrance and just that sense of having another human being nearby. Porn removes the human from sex or at least leaves YOU as the ONLY significant human in sex! Why would it be designed to do anything else? Afterall you are the customer, the big cheese, the main man, the director, the writer, and the scenic artist of your own show as you follow the click through pathway to pron paradise!
Is it not interesting that even electronic mastubators you can link to your keyboard are becoming popular? However, it will still be screen, cock and eyes! Whom ever may vary the pace at the other end they won't be really there, they'll still be a pixel generated image and you'll still want MORE...So where next from the toys? What's your poison when the 'normal stuff' does not do it for you any more? Imagine how many a sex offender has asked themselves that question when serving time in the vulnerable Prisoner's Unit and wondering if, when the screws back is turned, they might not be subject to a vicious kicking? It's a salutory thought that this stuff will, because of the nature of your physical brain and the nature of addiction escalate!
I wish you continued good luck and further success in your reboot. I can see you making progress already after a short time. It's never impossible to 'give up on the giving up!' I should know, I tried so often I stopped counting ages ago!
The symptoms of stress you are feeling are quite normal. To my mind the problem was only with the Porn and not the masturbation. I know some people need to avoid BOTH to reboot but I can still use masturbation as a form of sexual relief but I resist using it to self soothe or self comfort. If I feel I need to do that, there must be other issues behind the need, than simple physical relief! I would want to investigate these as well.
Certainly I 100% agree Porn induced ED is a product of regular porn use. As somebody rightly says on another thread 'porn teaches us to have sex with our eyes!' That makes TOTAL SENSE. The link is visual imagery, variety of novel visual and audio images, direct connection from eyes to penis! Notice how quickly you loose the ability to get an erection just by 'thinking about your partner.' The only way you'll restablish that physical connection is by touch, smell, sight and feel. What's more is focusing not just on YOU but your partner. The screen does not touch you, respond to you, ask anything of you...Your human partner will and frankly, at first that's a bit much to handle. They will need much patience with you as you slowly resume the closeness.
What I have noticed over time is an ability to become errect just being near my partner in bed. I think that is a physical association with warmth, fragrance and just that sense of having another human being nearby. Porn removes the human from sex or at least leaves YOU as the ONLY significant human in sex! Why would it be designed to do anything else? Afterall you are the customer, the big cheese, the main man, the director, the writer, and the scenic artist of your own show as you follow the click through pathway to pron paradise!
Is it not interesting that even electronic mastubators you can link to your keyboard are becoming popular? However, it will still be screen, cock and eyes! Whom ever may vary the pace at the other end they won't be really there, they'll still be a pixel generated image and you'll still want MORE...So where next from the toys? What's your poison when the 'normal stuff' does not do it for you any more? Imagine how many a sex offender has asked themselves that question when serving time in the vulnerable Prisoner's Unit and wondering if, when the screws back is turned, they might not be subject to a vicious kicking? It's a salutory thought that this stuff will, because of the nature of your physical brain and the nature of addiction escalate!
I wish you continued good luck and further success in your reboot. I can see you making progress already after a short time. It's never impossible to 'give up on the giving up!' I should know, I tried so often I stopped counting ages ago!
