Am posting again because I'm feeling particularly tempted right now. I know it'll pass, I know it'll pass.
I'm just thinking out loud here really, but let's think about it: temptation never lasts forever. I'm not going to spend the next 50 years feeling exactly like this.
What happens if I resist this temptation? I won't lose out on anything I don't already have. My wife will still love me, my children will still be adorable, my job will be there still; I'll be as healthy as happy as I am right now.
And if I give in? The counter goes back to zero, and the enemy goes "ha!" - stabs me for having believed his lies. And I then have to look my wife in the eye, knowing that the porn, the chat rooms, that they're back between us.
And what am I even seeking? Someone to be interested in me, someone to find my picture attractive? For goodness' sake, it's actually madness when I analyse it! My wife thinks I'm gorgeous. She goes out of her way to tell me.
I need to learn to practise SELF-compassion, and SELF-validation, rather than looking for validation in the wrong places. Let's do this:
I'm a 6'4 guy with a good head of hair, a decent beard, blue eyes, straight teeth, a decent smile... my body isn't ripped but I'm pretty slim. My wife fancies me after 16 years of having been together (and I fancy her too).
I am smart, literate, kind to others, compassionate, capable of excellent work. I can fight people's corners and persuade people to take action that is in their best interests. I can bring a room of people to laughter with just a one-liner.
Other than my broken wrist, I'm in good health!
I have Jesus in my heart. That is as real as it feels. He lives in me and I would be nothing without him.
I have made some mistakes in the past. I've made a lot of mistakes in the past. But I have acknowledged that I have an addiction, I'm receiving treatment, I've been in recovery for two and a half years and have been clean for 70 days straight.
If I was to clone myself and make the other 'me' my best friend, I'd pull me to one side, give me a big hug and say "man, don't do this".
And in typing that all, the temptation is gone for now. The enemy has been banished away. Cheerio! He'll be back, but I won that one.
I hope that this doesn't seem like the ramblings of an absolute madman. I just thought I'd be honest with you. The struggle is real, even ten weeks in. But it's a battle that can be won, day by day.