Remember that you can give yourself grace. It's ok to be disappointed with past actions. They happened and you can't change that. But don't sit and dwell there, that will just ruin tomorrow too. Instead, decide today that you will be better than yesterday. When you allow God to move, you put this situation into his hands. Submit and say yeah I screwed up and miss the mark, help me get back on track. Well, that is when he can use you to create something great. I look at my husband's addiction and my own process of healing. It's not over, not sure it ever really is "over" but I am slowly starting to see how he is taking this mess and making a testimony of transformation, healing, and grace. He is using our weaknesses to tell a story of how with him they become our strengths. The past is the past, yes your actions have consequences, but who do you want to be tomorrow? Be that person. Live that life. Know that you have the capacity for greatness. You were perfectly handcrafted, you were made with intention, the creator of the universe wanted you here. He has plans for you. Live those plans. Allowing fear and regret prevents us from clearly hearing his truth. You can do this and you have the support of this community and the creator of the universe. You are good. You are worthy of love. It's ok to love yourself and be happy.