What we're doing here is addiction recovery
as much as addiction is about abuse of substance (drugs/gambling/porn/alcohol), the roots of addiction begins with emotions.
So treating addiction is not simply about substance removal, it is all about emotional repair and readjustment.
The sequence of events is emotional triggers -> psychological consideration -> physical action
So when blogging here to help your addiction recovery, write about your emotional struggles. this takes the pain out and allows you to adjust your psychological responses.
It is never simply about reaching out for PMO use.
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My path to recovery started in 3rd May 2017
I was without work and have been despondent and uninterested with life for many years
I met a girl on this day and fell madly in love
So strong was my attraction to her that I instantly stopped PMO since meeting her
Love is such an important trigger in life to get creative and excited with living
(through my recovery, I've come to realize that self love is the most important love of all)
I took the rest of the month meeting people to get interested with life again
She is the most lovely person and we made love at the end of the month
But by middle of June we had drifted apart because of my lack of career and personal ambition.
Depressed and greatly sadden, I binged massively on PMO until 9/7/17 when i heard a podcast on ED from PMO.
So started my true recovery the next day on 10/7
Between starting till today I focused deeply on reading, blogging, writing about thoughts, and helping fellow rebooters here. Most were just concerned about their dick recovery. I guess they weren't as loser as myself in life to care more about psychological and emotional wellbeing .
Anyway, the longer i stayed off PMO, the more i blog here, the clearer things became for me
I can really feel the change in the way i think
Disinterest, giving up, uncaring and negativity slowly but surely moved away and were gradually replaced with purpose, intention, interest and desire to better and improve myself.
Of and on I still met with the girl i loved.
How strong is my attachment?
I guess i probably think of her over 100 times a day instinctively
I wake up every morning to the thought of her.
I want so badly to be with her.
But her actions soon became clear that she wasnt interested.
Yesterday i read the blog of happysad
http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=7620.0
A really nice and courageous guy, I related deeply with his relationship with his crush.
And with fierce determination, last night i decided to let mine go too.
Yesterday was a positive day for me
I blogged here on
http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=14193.msg143750#msg143750 about facing our flaws.
2 recruiters called me up regarding applications i made earlier
i also went to a talk on SEO.
I looked around a room full of bright and eager people wanting to improve and do good.
I think why wasnt i like them when i was younger?
I was always running away from challenges, hiding from fear of certainty of failing.
Why wasn't i even remotely confident with myself?
I'm not a dumb fella. I have my certs. I'm tall and fit. Its just that i focused too much on harping my mistakes instead of making improvements.
Maybe its me. Maybe its PMO.
I cant be like this anymore. I want to succeed.
At night i read Choose Yourself by James Altucher.
Its a big wakeup call to reclaim my life.
I'm writing here now because today i woke with great anger and anxiety.
The drive to do well and improve my life is so strong today.
I read a great succees post by danb91
http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=14243.0#new
Its so clear now.
The pleasure trap that we are in is clearly described here
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jX2btaDOBK8
addiction and recovery is 5 phases
natural normal->addicted artificial stimulated high->new unnatural normal->recovery clearing low->natural normal
we are at recovery clearing low now. we must invest the time to get back to natural normal.
for me natural normal stopped at 13
I'm therefore still mentally at 13. I have 30 years of catching up to do.
recovery is all about regaining our emotions and psychology
The life of PMO is false
Life gives 3 main stimulus : to grow/to avoid/to conserve
they are reflected in our emotions.
PMO robs us the ability to use our emotions, and hence we fail to adapt to these important stimulus.
creature who follow artificial stimulation will surely die.
they have no will to improve or take on challenges
they have given up the will to live
this is what we are really dealing with.
not the satisfaction of that piece of meat between our legs but the ability to live well, meaningfully, happily.
live my friends
live and be free