Well,
this is my record so far:
Started 10/7
Slipped on
14/8 -> chatsite distraction
15/8 -> missing her
24/8 -> 7 day peaking?
6/9 -> missing her
7/9 -> missing her
Other developments.
That miserable 4.5 months long depression has lifted these last 2 weeks.
Reason being:
1. I'm starting to be able to let go and accept
2. I stopped reading up on self help and depression. ( they sorta made things worse)
3. I've discovered negativity to be the root of my depression (fuck negativity)
4. I've started reading up on books on character building
5. I'm going back for some religious teachings
In this time I've discovered that
1. having purpose in life makes seeking instant gratification less important
2. understanding long term effort making makes seeking instant gratification less important
3. not gratifying frequently makes seeking instant gratification less important
4. not gratifying frequently makes me feel more grounded and stable
5. not gratifying frequently strangely makes P unattractive ( I am becoming more aware and interested with personal growth instead
Podcasts have been a great help in my recovery
1. it was a podcast that led me to finding out about ED and reboot on 9/7
2. it was a podcast that led me to install openDNS family shield
3. it was a podcast that made me reflect:
a. which came first, M or P ( ie does M makes wanting P more or P makes wanting M more? either way both are destructive)
b. why should M be the go to habit/practice for relief? (just because everyone smokes, does it mean i must smoke too?)
Anyway, with long term focus, my mood is generally calmer and more stable.
I'm not thinking so much of my immediate personal needs, and instead am happy to stay focused on my purpose.
I am less distracted, less avoiding
Less externally influenced, more internally driven
Instead I am more engaged with whatever I am doing now
I have more self respect and discipline
I am more aware of my triggers:
HALTBSD : Happy Angry/Agitated/Anxious Lonely Tired Bored Sad Depressed
I am feeling happier and more contented with every passing day.
I was very proud of my initial 36 day streak, but i also realized i made it though because of sheer will power.
Yet it wouldn't have lasted because I did not have emotional understanding of myself and personal purpose.
Now I am better emotionally connected.
I am better aware of my triggers
I have better understanding of choice and process
I have direction
I am not embarrassed by my slips.
My failures have taught me alot about myself.
I look forward to a more grounded and realistic future.
I would suggest reading more of the blogs on the success stories section
http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?board=12.0
Dont be suck down by the struggles of other.
Instead be inspired by the successes of others.
Purpose before person. Peace