The final countdown

[BlueHeronFan]

Just wanted to second what Achilles said. A relapse is only a total loss if you don't learn from it. Don't fool yourself into thinking that everything you've done up to now is wasted just because you slipped again. All of that learning and progress still counts.

Also, I know that a lot of my relapses have come because I thought I was "cured" and started to get lazy with taking care of myself. Lately, I've been working on keeping my guard up one day at a time and not thinking that I'm "cured" just because I went without PMO for a month. A month is not much compared to years of addiction, so I don't think feeling cured is very helpful. There's always a risk, and we always have to be careful. But we can only control today.

Long story short, congrats on going the day without PMO. Now just focus on getting through tomorrow. We'll get there a day at a time.

 

[Lero]

Just wanted to second what Achilles said. A relapse is only a total loss if you don't learn from it. Don't fool yourself into thinking that everything you've done up to now is wasted just because you slipped again. All of that learning and progress still counts.

Also, I know that a lot of my relapses have come because I thought I was "cured" and started to get lazy with taking care of myself. Lately, I've been working on keeping my guard up one day at a time and not thinking that I'm "cured" just because I went without PMO for a month. A month is not much compared to years of addiction, so I don't think feeling cured is very helpful. There's always a risk, and we always have to be careful. But we can only control today.

Long story short, congrats on going the day without PMO. Now just focus on getting through tomorrow. We'll get there a day at a time.

I don't think it's a good idea to ever consider yourself "cured". We will never be "pre-porn people" again. Paths have been created in our brains. We could slip one day and go back to it. You hear about former alcoholics going back to drinking after years. It's not really that simple. We are not people who have never binged porn. If you think you are healed now, you might let your guard down, you might think triggers are nothing now, you might think you could handle the triggers until you see yourself "remembering" the pleasure.

 

[dusty]

Thank you guys for your replies and the discussion. For me it depends on that how we understand the definition of being cured. Honestly I don't think that we will be able to ever use porn in healthy way. But we can be cured in normal life. No more treating women as a toys. appreciate higher values, don't think in the porn way about sex and so on.

8th day. Yesterday I had problem with erection and wasn't able to have sex with my gf. It's really annoying during a reboot because when I PMO it never happens. Should not it be reversly? Nevermind. I'm in a good mood and keep going

 

[Lero]

Thank you guys for your replies and the discussion. For me it depends on that how we understand the definition of being cured. Honestly I don't think that we will be able to ever use porn in healthy way. But we can be cured in normal life. No more treating women as a toys. appreciate higher values, don't think in the porn way about sex and so on.

8th day. Yesterday I had problem with erection and wasn't able to have sex with my gf. It's really annoying during a reboot because when I PMO it never happens. Should not it be reversly? Nevermind. I'm in a good mood and keep going

Ah yes, I think it's fair to say it comes down to our own individual definition for being cured. In my case, I would not like to call myself "cured" because I could never look at P again and just walk away as if nothing happened. It could "remember" me of all the fun and pleasure and I could easily go back to my addiction. For me, not considering myself cured would help me be careful. Maybe that's what the guys want to say when they talk about not considering yourself cured. But now, whatever works for you, this is what you should do. And whatever definition you want to have.

 

[deminounrae]

8th day. Yesterday I had problem with erection and wasn't able to have sex with my gf. It's really annoying during a reboot because when I PMO it never happens. Should not it be reversly? Nevermind. I'm in a good mood and keep going

Good job man, don't think about it. This is a stiff shot but time will heal everything, and when the time will be right it will be so much satisfying. Keep going strong.

 

[dusty]

Lero, you're right. But now I don't think and delibarate about porn. It was disastrous path for me in the past to search opinions, researches. Only what I know it's PMO is bad for me. I'm not sure if you can call it an addiction or compulsive using, nevermind. It fucks my brain and i'm sure about it.

Thanks deminounrae! Indeed, yesterday I had sex and it was really satisfying.
9th day and I'm good, yep. Really happy to be among you guys.

 

[dusty]

11th day and everything is quite nice. I had sex last day and feel an arousal but it's under control. Next day - next chapter in my journey.

 

[achilles heel]

Good to see you're back on track again, 11 days is a good achievement already! 

 

[dusty]

Good to see you're back on track again, 11 days is a good achievement already! 

Many thanks Achilles! Yep, my reboot is going fine and it's 14th day now. Two weeks without porn and I started to see benefits. I know it fluctuates but now i'm more relaxed, feel a deeper connection with my gf so it's really good 

 

[dusty]

15th day. All good, happy to do this reboot.

 

[Lero]

It seems like things are starting to move well.

 

[achilles heel]

Good to see you're back on track again, 11 days is a good achievement already! 

Many thanks Achilles! Yep, my reboot is going fine and it's 14th day now. Two weeks without porn and I started to see benefits. I know it fluctuates but now i'm more relaxed, feel a deeper connection with my gf so it's really good 

Great! 

Just don't expect too much in terms of benefits and you will be fine. If you made it two weeks, you can make it three and more! Keep going!

 

[dusty]

Thank you guys!

18th day and i mo'ed yesterday but everything is under control. Expect that i'm doing well. 

 

[No regrets]

Hi dusty, I hope that you have even better days. Good luck on your journey. You seem to passionate and driven, nothing is going to stop you. I mean it

 

[dusty]

Hi dusty, I hope that you have even better days. Good luck on your journey. You seem to passionate and driven, nothing is going to stop you. I mean it

Thank you man!

DAY 21, so 3 weeks without PMO. I'm happy and feel good and chilled!

 

[No regrets]

Thank you for having the courage and dedication to stay the course when most people would probably give up.
I want you to know that I am thinking of you and wishing you the best. I can?t even explain how proud of you I am. With every day I admire you even more, I don?t think there is anything you cannot do. You?re amazing 

 

[achilles heel]

DAY 21, so 3 weeks without PMO. I'm happy and feel good and chilled!

That's impressive, hope you keep the right track! 

 

[dusty]

Thank you guys so much!

24th day and I mo'ed because had stronger cravings. Anyway i feel much better comparing to the previous reboots. I feel that's the right thing to do for 100%. I dream about porn free life.

Good luck to everyone 

 

[Do or die]

Hey dont let your cravings fall you down.
Defeat your urges.  If you are relapsing then you need to know importance of success

 

[achilles heel]

I dream about porn free life.

Start living the dream! You can make it!