A new start (Alea iacta est) 52y

[Totte]

Status report Day 24
soon a month in but no longer then 8day's PMO free.
Day 2 PMO free
Day 4 eating healthy
Day 1 getting fit.

Tom

 

[Totte]

Need to keep this in my mind...
This summer we are taking a trip together wife and I, without kids.
Its about 70 day's away!
What i would like is to lose 10kilos (22lb 0.7396480oz) and get me on track so we cud make love!
Romantic dinners and atmosphere and we cud get some awesome evenings or and mornings together.
Now i need to keep this in my mind and at the same time not get stressed over it.

Is it doable to get out of flat line in 70 day's?
70day's is 10 weeks that would be 1kilo a week. i can do that, I am sure.
Not get in to a stressful mindset!

What do you all say is it possible?

Tom

 

[Karzam]

Hi Tom,

I'd say it's possible, certainly. But, from my experience at least, I'd remove the goals - but that's just a reflection of my psychological aspects. If setting a goal works for you, then that's great. However, if setting a goal (and potentially not reaching it) is something to beat yourself up about, then that's not so great.

Karzam

 

[Totte]

Day 26 and 4 days PMO free!
Many thought running true me! What should get me to drop this?
The rush from getting of and after that feeling bad and I cud twist this and say that it?s not sheeting.
But I would say it?s sheeting I?m definitely not performing in bed so it?s like sheeting!

So not to my self, just get true this day!

Tom

 

[Totte]

Report Day 27
Closing in on my 7 day PMO free
Day 5 PMO free

Longing for the day I can see a beautiful woman and just see that!
I love my wife and hopefully I can start yearn for her.

Tom

 

[Totte]

Report Day 28
Closing in on my 7 day PMO free high score.
Day 6 PMO free

Day 9 eating healthy and on day 7 lost 1,5 kilos. (3,3 lbs)
Started to go to the gym.

Tom

 

[DavS]

  Sounds like you are on the right path, one that is working for you. Stay committed, and remember what YOU really want.

 

[Totte]

  Sounds like you are on the right path, one that is working for you. Stay committed, and remember what YOU really want.

Thanks!
To day I have soreness after the gym! So good feeling.
I think I feel that I?m on the right path
Thanks to you all here!
Tom

 

[Totte]

Report Day 29
Day 7 that I am PMO free

Day 10 eating healthy
(and on day 7 lost 1,5 kilos.) (3,3 lbs)

It?s 05:00 in the morning and about to go to the gym!

Tom

 

[DavS]

Information for Tom:
https://www.reuniting.info/karezza_evaluation

https://www.reuniting.info/karezza_porn_addicts

 

[Totte]

Information for Tom:
https://www.reuniting.info/karezza_evaluation

https://www.reuniting.info/karezza_porn_addicts

Thanks!
This is interesting I need to get wife fully onboard, we have talked about it but not more then that really.

Tom

 

[DavS]

    I can't see any harm starting karezza at any time. It is part of recovery. Its important to understand, karezza is loving contact. It's not important to get hard, or perform sexually. It's more about loving and sharing, gentle touching and intimacy. If it gets sexy that's ok too, but the idea is to not get too excited. For men especially, avoid orgasm during rebooting. Many men continue to avoid orgasm, perhaps because it becomes easy to have lots of amazing intercourse!

 

[Totte]

    I can't see any harm starting karezza at any time. It is part of recovery. Its important to understand, karezza is loving contact. It's not important to get hard, or perform sexually. It's more about loving and sharing, gentle touching and intimacy. If it gets sexy that's ok too, but the idea is to not get too excited. For men especially, avoid orgasm during rebooting. Many men continue to avoid orgasm, perhaps because it becomes easy to have lots of amazing intercourse!

Awesome thank you!

 

[Totte]

Report Day 30
Day 8 PMO free
I think I?m in flatline, it?s a little scary it?s like dead down there!
Nothing happening even wen I see my favourite actor having a kissing scene (I always get response of her). Is this good?


Day 11 eating healthy
(and on day 7 lost 1,5 kilos.) (3,3 lbs)

Tom

 

[Totte]

Report Day 31
Day 9 PMO free

Day 12 eating healthy
(and on day 7 lost 1,5 kilos.) (3,3 lbs)

Tom

 

[Totte]

My mind is playing tricks with me!
My labido is dead, but I?m feeling strong needs to watch porn.
So I can do PMO!
I see a lady and I see a beautiful smile, eyes or whatever there beauty is.
It?s not really a problem but at home alone or with family my mind playing tricks.
I start to get an idea of that I need to do Something.

Struggling
Tom

 

[DavS]

  Sent you an email. Sorry I didn't get it out when you were online. Don't give in to the addict voices in your head. Counter those thoughts with thoughts from your true self, who you want to be, and who you really are!
  The email I sent does not appear in my sent mail. I hope it isn't lost, it was a god one. The link I included I'll repeat here.

https://www.reuniting.info/science/ecstatic_exchanges_and_neurochemistry

 

[Totte]

  Sent you an email. Sorry I didn't get it out when you were online. Don't give in to the addict voices in your head. Counter those thoughts with thoughts from your true self, who you want to be, and who you really are!
  The email I sent does not appear in my sent mail. I hope it isn't lost, it was a god one. The link I included I'll repeat here.

https://www.reuniting.info/science/ecstatic_exchanges_and_neurochemistry

Awesome thank you!
Good information.

Tom

 

[Totte]

Report Day 32
Day 10 PMO free

Day 13 eating healthy well was out eating with family.
Not that good really I think to much wine and food hope I don?t get to bad results when I?m on the scale tomorrow.

(and on day 7 lost 1,5 kilos.) (3,3 lbs)

Tom

 

[Totte]

My mind is playing tricks with me!
My labido is dead, but I?m feeling strong needs to watch porn.
So I can do PMO!
I see a lady and I see a beautiful smile, eyes or whatever there beauty is.
It?s not really a problem but at home alone or with family my mind playing tricks.
I start to get an idea of that I need to do Something.

Struggling
Tom

Was watching a series on HBO and there Was a scene not that extremely hot but I feel some labido.
Is this good?