A new start (Alea iacta est) 52y

DavS

DavS

Active Member
  Everyone has setbacks. Ask yourself how it happened, and plan how to prevent a similar failure. Most of all remember that as long as you are on the path, you will continue to recover. When a baby is learning to walk, they don't give up even if they fall 100 times. They know what they want! Ask yourself what do I really want. Know that you will never give up. This has worked for me.
 
T

Totte

Guest
Turtle said:
  Everyone has setbacks. Ask yourself how it happened, and plan how to prevent a similar failure. Most of all remember that as long as you are on the path, you will continue to recover. When a baby is learning to walk, they don't give up even if they fall 100 times. They know what they want! Ask yourself what do I really want. Know that you will never give up. This has worked for me.
Click to expand...

Hello!
Yes of course there will be setbacks! And my setback was that there happened to much at the same time, and i needed to blow of some steem...

Dont have to go in to what exactly but it had to do with my family and the pressure from them to fix stuff for them. (not my wife and children). I have a work that demand much from me and now i have had to much to do at work so this 100% demand in time from family was no good lol!
And how can i tell them that i cant help due to i have a SEX addiction, thats to privet.

My family would not understand even if i was an alcoholic. No acceptances from them in this situation (Family history with alcoholism).

I am really struggling with my PMO addiction, i have good progress with the start of Karezza but then this happened and i am set back from 20 day's, and was seeing a light in the tunnel.
Now im and the start again, had i been at 40-50 day's then i had maybe dropt down halfway but 20 day's its like i havent had any progress at all, that i can len on when i start again.....
Sorry writing from my heart so English is worse then ever..............

Tom
 
T

Totte

Guest
7days PMO free
I started a personal development project/plan found an app that will help me.
Remente
Finding out some new things about me self.
I am now more relaxed.

Tom
 
T

Totte

Guest
Hi, I am back and I really need to start from scratch again.
I am now at tree day PMO free hoping this will work this time.

I will try to answer this 2-3 times a week.
Did I use porn today?                              No             
What were my triggers?                            eyes           
How did I soothe my anxiety or stress?      Working
What am I grateful for today?                  That I started again
 
B

BigMog

Active Member
Hi Tom, Good Luck! I?m sure posting and reading here will help. How is the personal development going that you mentioned earlier? Replacing the porn habit with good development activities seems like a good approach to me.
 
T

Totte

Guest
This is my third day and in a few hours its fore day.
What I wonder is can I look at a beautiful woman and not starting to fantasize about want I want to do with them? In reality, I don't know if I would want to have XXX with anyone. I only wish to have a good relationship where I can feel safe. To have a good connection and to give and get support, it's more important than the...... Act.

Hopefully getting better
Tommie
 
T

Totte

Guest
A full day and no PMO but did check in to one of this shit spam mail with you know. And just laughed about it really stupid. Was no will to do anything else but just stupid, but no harm really. But what is it that one makes this (cud be) stupid choices? There is a strong desire to...
Think if there was a really easy fix to let you stop and think. I try to think before I take a step that can trigger me.

Tom
 
T

Totte

Guest
Well this is hard I'm struggling with my demons.
I did some P but no O. Well how can I face the demons?
What is it in my life that's missing that give me the desire to do this destructive behavior?
 
workinprogressUK

workinprogressUK

Well-Known Member
My friend, you're right about the need to find out what's missing for you. I know that I need to identify the things missing or underlying for me, and eventually try to resolve them. But in these first few days, where you're unable to stop yourself using P, maybe you could try to focus on identfying your triggers and some avoidance tactics first? I'm the last person who should give advice, but it's like you've cut yourself with a saw, and instead of staunching the bleeding, you start to read a book about improving your joinery technique. RUN.... Remove yourself from the opportunity (shut down the PC immediately).... Un-distort your cognitive distortions (stop bullshitting yourself).... Never forget the damage that P abuse has done to your life. Try that?
 
T

Totte

Guest
workinprogressUK said:
My friend, you're right about the need to find out what's missing for you. I know that I need to identify the things missing or underlying for me, and eventually try to resolve them. But in these first few days, where you're unable to stop yourself using P, maybe you could try to focus on identfying your triggers and some avoidance tactics first? I'm the last person who should give advice, but it's like you've cut yourself with a saw, and instead of staunching the bleeding, you start to read a book about improving your joinery technique. RUN.... Remove yourself from the opportunity (shut down the PC immediately).... Un-distort your cognitive distortions (stop bullshitting yourself).... Never forget the damage that P abuse has done to your life. Try that?
Click to expand...


Wow thanks,  man!
This was what I needed to hear, absolutely the right words!
I will read this to get me on track. I am taking this in, I post later!
Tom
 
T

Totte

Guest
Step nr1
Start eating healty
To get my brain to se clear

Step nr2
Start workout gym 2-3 times a week
To fell good and strong

Step nr3
Read a novel a month
Just for fun

More is coming
Good day to day no PMO

Tom

 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top