Often, in order to quit an addiction, a guy needs to change his lifestyle and mindset. I thought about how should I start. I took a paper and wrote down what was detrimental for my recovery and then I've done the following things:
- I've stopped watching movies or series that have "softcore porn" in them (sex scenes, strippers dancing, naked tits etc). The reason is obvious.
- I've stopped visiting social media completely. The reason: Too many pictures that push me to seeking for more.
- When I need Youtube, I always log in so I could avoid the triggers in the thumbnail;
- I've stopped listening to sad, depressing music. It makes me... you got it: Sad and depressed which leads to: "I'll drink something or PMO to make myself feel a little better". I've thrown away such music and kept only the music without such attitude.
- I've been trying to avoid cry-babies and people with overall negative, bitching, sad-depressive attitude who don't want to do anything at all to change that. The reason: They will keep me at that level. I used to be like that and my 3 addictions loved me because I used them as self-medication. An emotional mess is a perfect victim for addictions. I'm finished with this and I need people with a similar mindset in my life. As a guy who suffered from what doctors would call: "Major depression", "Chronic depression" or whatever they call it, I am an example that you can stop being depressed, negative and cry-baby if you really want to.
We didn't choose to become addicts. It just happened. Getting stuck in the past and crying about why we had to become addicts, will do no good now. We didn't choose to be addicts but we choose to stay addicts. Right now, I'm aware of my addictions. I know I am an addict so I have no excuse and nothing to wait for. I write down the plan and start doing it. In the beginning, my negative mind reacted violently to my new, sudden change in attitude and tried to make me go back to being depressed. But I knew one thing: The mind gets used to everything after awhile. Just give it time. Eventually, your new mindset will replace the old one.
Okay, that's my opinion. Peace. Don't live for destructive pleasures!