Maybe it's something that has to do with my culture? I'm a muslim. We're generally a more conservative culture than others so maybe that's why? I can find a good percentage of people in my community who'd think that way. I personally have some friends who're much more "puritanical" -so to speak- than me, and some who are trying to be.
I knew you were a Muslim without you telling me. I don't know why but I was sure. I even wanted to ask you: "Are you Muslim?" If your culture makes you like this then it just makes me be more aware of my culture (I'm not Muslim) and everybody is like that joke: A calf and his father are standing next to each other, looking at a herd of cows.
"Dad, I want to go there a fuck a cow," the calf said.
"No, son. Let's go there and fuck them all."
When I heard this joke, yeah, I laughed. Your society definitely makes you think in a certain way. If everybody around you is like: "I want to fuck that girl, look at that ass, I want to threesome those 2 bitches right there!" you will probably start thinking the same.
In this day and age, you don't think you could ever find someone with the old school moral values, like my parents, for example. Because my parents didn't grow up in this Internet era full of porn.
I keep an eye on your journal and you have started talking just like me dad. Old school values. And I was like: "Whaaat? What age is he? 24? So in this day and age, there is someone who thinks like my father? This is actually very interesting."
And something inside me started to vibrate. I kind of felt like I wanted to be the same. I started to feel like the old school values shown in your journal were great. I started to think: "I am sick and tired of this porn society. What happened to traditional family? What happened to innocence before marriage? I am tired of these young people only interested in social media and clubs. I am tired of these young people only interested in debauchery, sex, drugs, blowjob in the toilet."
Maybe my super addicted to porn self had had enough. Everything screamed of porn. The orgies, the blowjob in the toilet, the one night stands... All sounded just like porn. And, to be honest, I've never really been the type to align myself to these modern times, anyway. I did to some extent, but as I got older, I started to be tired of this.
But then again, lots of people in my community are brainwashed in the same way, gaps between cultures are continuing to narrow and we're all in the same trouble. I see stupid parents handing out tablets with full internet access to 6 and 8 year olds without supervision and it terrifies me. I got addicted with limited internet access and on my family computer and I'm now pushing 25 and still struggling, what will be of those poor kids who have no clue?
I understand exactly what you mean. But maybe we have to understand these parents too. They're coming from an era where Internet didn't exist. I am sure many of them have no idea what could happen. My parents definitely had no idea that I would eventually become an Internet and porn addict. Porn addiction and Internet addiction are something that many people don't know. It will take some time until people look at Internet and porn like they look at alcohol and drugs. Hopefully, in the future, things will get better. I definitely hate to see young boys addicted to Internet and porn. I'm addicted to both and my life has been a hell. I know very well what it's like. I don't wish this to anybody. I don't wish to anybody to spend 16 hours a day online and watch porn and jerk off 7 times a day. When my parents gave me access to Internet, of course they thought they were helping me. I love my parents, they've tried to do everything for me. I don't blame them for my problem. I blame lack of information by the time I was 16. I didn't choose to be addicted to porn and Internet. It just happened. Now I have to get clean. Hopefully, when information about porn addiction and Internet addiction is everywhere, we could say that those parents who hand tablets to 6 years old kids are really idiots.
Anyways, your last reply will get a nice screenshot and into my "stop and think" folder. It's extremely encouraging to be trusted with setting a good example. It deserves to be read everyday among the others.
Thanks, man! This really makes me push myself through hard times because I want to be in the same boat with you. If you are clean, I want to be as well. I just spoke honestly. That's how I felt. It was an overwhelming moment of sincerity. I loved your last post and I wanted to let you know.
It's getting easier with time. More specifically, I don't have to think too much now like (normally I'd stare at that girl but I shouldn't, so I should try looking at her face instead), no. It happens more automatically. I still get urges to look down there, but they're not compulsive anymore.
As I used to say: We adapt to anything.
One more thing I need to tell you: You wrote about how you feel empty while you try other activities (than PMO or internet) which are supposed to be enjoyable but you can't seem to enjoy them. I wanna ask you to give yourself more time. Yesterday, urges were insane, so I thought I'd listen to some music but then I felt that "empty" you were talking about. My mind was like "nah, I don't want music, I want PMO. That music is lame". But I gave it more time. And half through the song my brain started to compromise. It started taking some interest in the song and it picked its beat. I forgot the urge and I kept skimming through more and more songs till I was tired and ready to sleep.
I will definitely try that and spend more time with some activities. Maybe I start having fun with them along the way. This would keep me away from spending too much time online. But it's still very very hard. I am very addicted to Internet.
Anyway, happy new year. I'll see you tomorrow cause tomorrow my challenge starts. "Free January".