BlueHeronFan
Respected Member
Anytime, man.
I think your two new tools are really great. Meditation, I have heard, does directly heal the parts of the brain that addiction damages. Pumping your prefrontal cortex full of good blood is an awesome way to fight back at this thing. And I love the idea of having juggling balls close by. What a great way to redirect your brain and body to something that requires concentration and short-circuits the urges. It's also good that you're noticing that nights are harder. Learn the patterns and respond accordingly.
And you're right to work on cutting out tinder, phone numbers, looking at body parts, etc. I see it in myself and in other people too: the thing about our addiction is that we do get some benefit out of it (we wouldn't be addicted if it was all bad). Because of that, there's probably always a part of us that doesn't want to quit, so we end up leaving little breadcrumb trails for ourselves so that we can find our way back to the addiction. Maybe tinder and keeping girls' numbers are part of the breadcrumb trail, the little things that keep you connected to your addiction so that you can find your way back even when you know you want to quit. Get rid of that breadcrumb trail and go forward without reservation.
I think your two new tools are really great. Meditation, I have heard, does directly heal the parts of the brain that addiction damages. Pumping your prefrontal cortex full of good blood is an awesome way to fight back at this thing. And I love the idea of having juggling balls close by. What a great way to redirect your brain and body to something that requires concentration and short-circuits the urges. It's also good that you're noticing that nights are harder. Learn the patterns and respond accordingly.
And you're right to work on cutting out tinder, phone numbers, looking at body parts, etc. I see it in myself and in other people too: the thing about our addiction is that we do get some benefit out of it (we wouldn't be addicted if it was all bad). Because of that, there's probably always a part of us that doesn't want to quit, so we end up leaving little breadcrumb trails for ourselves so that we can find our way back to the addiction. Maybe tinder and keeping girls' numbers are part of the breadcrumb trail, the little things that keep you connected to your addiction so that you can find your way back even when you know you want to quit. Get rid of that breadcrumb trail and go forward without reservation.