Thanks for sticking with me even though I seemingly abandoned y'all @blueheronfan and @quitforeverandwin! @Blue yes real life is more important than online, but being on here impacts how I am in the real world, so I kind of see it as an extension of the real world, a safe space to figure things out and apply ideas to the real world in hopes of improving the lives of myself and others.
Okay day, not super productive but that's okay, still got a decent workout and some decent practice. I had to make a facebook account for this audition training program which has been great so far bc you get to connect with other likeminded people from around the world, but the simple fact of having account first led me to look up people I haven't seen in awhile, then start looking for people I barely knew but were super attractive. I didn't get any huge urges or anything, just felt bad and super creepy since I never interacted with them in real life.
I have been playing past life events in my head recently where I feel like I missed a big opportunity, wether it is a potential relationship, a potential experience for personal growth, or anything else positive...I tend to get totally consumed by these thoughts because my brain tells me that I could've been such a different person (for the better) than I am right now. I feel that as I get older, my social skills get increasingly more dull, and I'm just trying to slow down the inevitable. I know that these thoughts suck and don't make any sense...I plan to take small steps every day to let go of this narrative. One thing I try to tell myself is that the present is the only thing that matters and you should make the most of it, but the more I do that it feels that the inevitable slip-up (since it's impossible to be totally in the moment %100 of the time) makes the regrets for the past even stronger. Perhaps I am not looking at the bigger picture behind all of this...hopefully there will be a breaking point where the thoughts about the past get weaker rather than stronger if I just keep trying to live out the teachings from my meditation. As you can probably tell, it's a confusing time for me lol, partly bc I am in a really solid routine that I feel good about and there are no big problems, but something just feels off, and I can't really put my finger on it. Maybe it's something that can't be put into words, maybe there is a part of me that I either don't know or haven't seen in the "right perspective." For now, just gunna shrug my shoulders and soldier on
I will try super hard to be on here seven days a week even if I'm staying at a friends place without my laptop, I can always use my phone. I genuinely appreciate the support from y'all, but unfortunately due to my self-esteem issues I often don't realize that I have a positive effect being on here and posting consistently. The fact that I am helping others is more than enough reason to post here every day, or every other day at the very least. I tend to isolate myself and I guess that tendency also drifted towards this online community, which speaks to my lack of understanding of what this community is all about.