Midday:
Not entirely sure why, but I'm feeling really anxious, and I recognize that anxiousness increases sexual tension in me and makes me want to let off the steam by jerking off. I just feel awful in my stomach, but I'm staying strong, and intervening in my day by writing about this. Hope not to have to post so much eventually, but this is really aiding me as a substitute for PMO, and it helps me express my feelings since I can't think of anyone in real life to really bother about with this. Just grateful for your guys' being here.
Here are the main sources of anxiety:
Driving lesson today (I don't know why, perhaps it's because of fear of failure, but this is making me anxious right now)
Procrastinating for my upcoming teaching contract, at which I've found success in preparing by just forcing myself to work alongside a timer each day. Although I don't accomplish goals by session, I at least put in time
Longer-term anxiety about finding a job after this, finding what really interests and excites me, and a generally uncertain time period after I ended my current teaching gig (commute was too far by hours, and it was incredibly challenging to supply so much motivation where I worked, along with working conditions being pretty long and daunting, plus I want to try something else or a different area while I'm young, and pursue other interests).
I'm also anxious because the last few days have been very same-y, despite the fact that I've done a great job getting into good habits.
I'm also worried that I won't be able to keep up these good habits once my teaching contract starts and my life will get totally derailed again. It feels like working for subsistence and killing time sometimes.
These are all really good things to think about. I think I need to aim high for whatever are my next goals and aims. I can use this to help me narrow and focus my scope.
THAT,^^ however, was only the negatives. They're actually a great way to start thinking about the future and growth when I look at them with a growth mindset. And perhaps, the more miserable and anxious I become, the closer I will get to the root of why I feel stagnant in life. Heck, I didn't realize it, but this anxiety might actually lead me to greater fulfillment and happiness in the end!
With that in mind, let's go over the positives for a bit:
- Increased libido
- More positive, assertive conversation
- Extra time from not using PMO
- Insomnia is going away, and my sleep schedule is getting more consistent
- More time for tugging since I don't veer off into PMO
- More attracted to women
- Being able to appreciate different viewpoints more (subtle, but I'm sensing this. I can register my emotions as they're happening and pull them apart more, a sign of emotional intelligence. For instance, I have this tendency to get annoyed when I read articles by women who feel victimized because I myself felt victimized from circumcision. I'm not saying that I'm right, as these issues are complex and multifaceted, but I can more easily follow along with logic and reasoning rather than skipping to ballistic emotional responses and using porn or something to pacify my feelings.
- More frequent morning wood
- Slightly increased sensitivity around the genitals
- I'm becoming more social again, and I reached out to two friends to meet
- (Hard to prove, but I'm feeling it) Less cynicism when I think about reaching out to others
- Greater altruism
- Music sounds better
- Starting to pursue more meaningful long-term interests, rather than short-term gratification. Thinking more about the meaning of life.
I'm definitely more in tune with my feelings, but it can lead to some torment where I'd previously just brush it off with a session of PMO. THis is helping me address issues with more nuanced working through my feelings, rather than using short-term stimulus.
I've also started getting rid of some of the hobbies I had while into these perverse sexual tastes. While I might consider it a negative, it's saving me money and making me less scared to have people back in my life.
It's also been a lot more time spent thinking about recovery, but is that really a drawback, when eventually I'll be free and stronger?
It's odd, I keep marrying this whole self-improvement to this one girl I knew a few years ago and just recently met back up with. I felt like vermin when I thought about her a week ago, trapped in my habits and self-indulgence, but now I'm feeling more confident when I think about talking to her, and I'm more objective in the reasons why I do things. I'm more honest with myself and genuinely just feeling more altruistic. Days seem to have more meaning as they unfold. That's a lot to trade for viewing images of internet porn, so I think I'm feeling a little bit better and a little bit more patient with myself now. Thank you for reading, and I hope that this helped someone!
Just re-read to give myself a better sense of how I'm doing. I realized this, since I'm feeling slow and unsteady, and I'm worrying about things like employability, etc. if I am in off time and I appear to be running in place. NO DAY IS WASTED TIME AS LONG AS YOU'RE WORKING AT YOUR COMMITMENT! Even a day spent staring at a wall would be more productive than doing a lot, but failing to keep my commitment.