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Today is the last day of February, so it's a good point to reflect on the first two months of my "No Porn-Challenge".
I clearly did not achieve the main goal of "No Porn 2020". When I wrote the initial post, I had no idea that cravings would arise and it turned out to be way harder than expected. Actually it was quite easy for the first 18 days, then I had a stupid relapse out of boredom and after that I developed a new obsession which I will explain in more detail later. In these first 2 months, on about 1/3 of the days I watched porn.
In my initial post I wrote: "In 2020 I want to live without watching porn and by that I want to regain my interest in other people, particularly in real women." Now I will compare my situation on new year's eve to my situation now, two months later.
New year's eve:
- It was a habit to regularly have sessions of clicking from one porn video to the next for several hours, until the morning hours. These sessions were 1-3 times a week with an increasing trend in lenght and frequency. This was also my frequency of masturbation.
- I had no considerable social interaction for months, not with guys and certainly not with girls. Still I felt confident, but also avoidant of social interaction.
- My biggest problem was the extreme amount of hours I wasted in the internet. Not only watching porn, but primarily watching random YouTube videos.
Today - end of February:
- I am not watching porn videos - there is no possibility to do so and I also don't feel a strong need to do it. However over the past few months I developed a new obsession for so-called "Bimbos" or "Bimbodolls", extremely surgically enhanced women. I always preferred the fake look, even before I started watching porn, but in these last 2 months it became more extreme. It's not only the aesthetic beauty, it's the whole philosophy behind it and it might also include a slightly misogynic element that somehow turns me on. I'm fascinated by girls who appear normal but underwent remarkable surgical enhancements, no strippers or pornstars. I have to think of that stuff almost all the time with strong urges to see respective pictures and I declared it a goal to "get" such a girl in 5-10 years. It actually gives me more motivation and passion in daily life, but also is the reason why this challenge has been so hard for me recently. This is my big problem right now.
- I'm interacting with others on occasion and during that I feel more confident, dominant and masculine than ever before, this also includes interaction with girls. The reason probably is personal development unrelated to this challenge here. My interest in real women has slightly increased but still is pretty low and I notice how their interest in me has also increased.
- I found a way to almost completely control my internet usage with huge positive impact on my productivity. This also stabilized my sleep rhythm which makes me feel better in daily life.
In total I have to conclude that I'm moving too slow. I spent less time watching porn and more time fantasizing about it. My interest in real women increased only very slightly. I don't want to waste 2 years of my life with this counting and relapsing game but my daily incentive to abstrain was not strong enough. Also my goals of how I actually want to feel at what point in time were not defined clearly enough. That's what I'm going to do in my next post.
I clearly did not achieve the main goal of "No Porn 2020". When I wrote the initial post, I had no idea that cravings would arise and it turned out to be way harder than expected. Actually it was quite easy for the first 18 days, then I had a stupid relapse out of boredom and after that I developed a new obsession which I will explain in more detail later. In these first 2 months, on about 1/3 of the days I watched porn.
In my initial post I wrote: "In 2020 I want to live without watching porn and by that I want to regain my interest in other people, particularly in real women." Now I will compare my situation on new year's eve to my situation now, two months later.
New year's eve:
- It was a habit to regularly have sessions of clicking from one porn video to the next for several hours, until the morning hours. These sessions were 1-3 times a week with an increasing trend in lenght and frequency. This was also my frequency of masturbation.
- I had no considerable social interaction for months, not with guys and certainly not with girls. Still I felt confident, but also avoidant of social interaction.
- My biggest problem was the extreme amount of hours I wasted in the internet. Not only watching porn, but primarily watching random YouTube videos.
Today - end of February:
- I am not watching porn videos - there is no possibility to do so and I also don't feel a strong need to do it. However over the past few months I developed a new obsession for so-called "Bimbos" or "Bimbodolls", extremely surgically enhanced women. I always preferred the fake look, even before I started watching porn, but in these last 2 months it became more extreme. It's not only the aesthetic beauty, it's the whole philosophy behind it and it might also include a slightly misogynic element that somehow turns me on. I'm fascinated by girls who appear normal but underwent remarkable surgical enhancements, no strippers or pornstars. I have to think of that stuff almost all the time with strong urges to see respective pictures and I declared it a goal to "get" such a girl in 5-10 years. It actually gives me more motivation and passion in daily life, but also is the reason why this challenge has been so hard for me recently. This is my big problem right now.
- I'm interacting with others on occasion and during that I feel more confident, dominant and masculine than ever before, this also includes interaction with girls. The reason probably is personal development unrelated to this challenge here. My interest in real women has slightly increased but still is pretty low and I notice how their interest in me has also increased.
- I found a way to almost completely control my internet usage with huge positive impact on my productivity. This also stabilized my sleep rhythm which makes me feel better in daily life.
In total I have to conclude that I'm moving too slow. I spent less time watching porn and more time fantasizing about it. My interest in real women increased only very slightly. I don't want to waste 2 years of my life with this counting and relapsing game but my daily incentive to abstrain was not strong enough. Also my goals of how I actually want to feel at what point in time were not defined clearly enough. That's what I'm going to do in my next post.