Day 9
On Day 8 I did what I needed the internet cable for and as there was an online lecture the next morning, I thought I could keep the internet acces for that lecture. And I watched that lecture, but after that I kept surfing online. I googled how to control ejaculation during sex, then clicked through images of hookers in my area (again) and then watched porn videos for about 20 minutes. I was edging to it but did not ejaculate. After 20 minutes I closed it, went outside and put my nternet cable back to the common room. Watching porn used to be an obsessive search for a new scene for me, this wasn't the case here. I just clicked through a few scenes from my memory and it wasn't such a strong dopamine release as in the past. It doesn't even feel like a relapse.
My sex drive is very high right now, but I don't care that much about watching porn and masturbating, I want to have real sex. It I could make a magic trick by which I could skip all the conversation stuff so that only the sexual part takes place, I would be very interested in real women. If I fantasize about sex, it doesn't make much difference if it's about pornstars, instagram models, normal women or hookers, that's a big change that occured recently. When I wrote that hookers aren't that interesting, I was wrong. I found out that there actually are very good-looking and at the same time very affordable hookers that I'd love to have sex with. This makes me think that it might really be the social alienation and not porn that draws me away from real women. On the other side I feel like being sexual confident would make it way easier to flirt with real women and treat my alienation playfully. Thats why hookers might be a good idea.
If there was no lockdown, the only thing that would keep me away from going to hookers would be performance anxiety. I fear that I might have PIED and also that I might ejaculate already after a few seconds. For the latter there are exercises that can't be combined with no masturbation though. I'm not sure about the PIED test. There are moments where I don't get an erection no matter if I fantasize about porn or normal women and then I sometimes wake up at night and get easily aroused very quickly. However PIED is no yes/no thing, it's a spectrum where I want to be in the 100% healthy state. If I think about all the porn-edging sessions I had over the last 3 years it is safe to assume that I am not there and this is the reason why I have to keep this no masturbation rule. I'll keep doing no PMO until the 15th June.
Although my sleep quality is terrible I'm feeling very good at the moment. When I speak to others I feel very masculine and confident. I see many women outside that I'd love to have sex with if I could skip the social stuff. I want to always feel like that. I wonder if I'm in this state just because I haven't fapped for a while but there's no sense in trying it out.