Not interested in real women and social alienation (No Porn 2020)

[TheSpaniard]

Hi Z,

Looks like your are learning a lot about your sexuality. Congratulations.

I would like to encourage you to accomplish these 14 days of no PMO that you say (and I would add no edging, not fantasizing because they make it difficult not to MO,but that's up to you). There is nothing wrong about being 14 days without MOing. It's like a self-control exercise. Once you have accomplish your 14 days of no PMO, you can conciously decide what to do next: keep without MOing or do it your way.

Hope this to be helpful for you.

 

[Jeks]

Hey z,

first of all congrats on fighting through the addiction as well as you do.
I watched this vid today by gabe deem today. In this one he also gives his opinion about fantasizing. Had to think of your situation and wanted to share it with you for some input.

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/porn-induced-sexual-dysfunctions/start-here-porn-induced-sexual-dysfunction/porn-induced-ed-reboot-advice/

 

[Z]

Day 1

Last night I slept longer but not better. My sexual desire was slightly lower than on the last two days but still I saw many women I found attractive. I had a slight headache and it actually annoyed me that so many women turned me on. It's a restless mindstate and just looking at women won't give me anything. Still, I'm not interested in verbal interactions. First I want to reach my goals for the upcoming months, then build a social circle with male friends and then I might think about it.

 

[Z]

What I didn't mention in my last post was that I looked up a few pictures from a particular girl yesterday that was one of my favourites before my reboot. No sexual pictures, just normal stuff from a normal girl who underwent plastic surgery which fascinates me somehow. Tonight I couldn't sleep and these pictures came up over and over again. Today I needed the internet cable for some work. I knew it would be very risky but I didn't really care. As soon as I touched it in the dorm room, a strong urge to watch porn videos came up. I remembered that one relapse where I took the cable at the middle of the night and it was just like it's written in the book YBOP. It felt like there is no other option than accepting my fate. I watched porn for about an hour and then fapped. Last time I wasn't really fascinated by porn, this time it was completely different. The worst thing is that this morning I was very inspired to do many things but now I'm feeling the lack of sleep. I didn't sleep properly for 2 weeks now and I don't really care about all this porn reboot stuff before I can sleep well again. The problem is that my room heats up too much during the day because of the sun. Today I bought a new fan which is supposed to be more quiet, this might help.

I disagree with what Gabe Deem says about fantasizing about real girls, at least applied to my personal situation. I think I have a pretty high level of testosterone at the moment (not for long if I don't fix my sleep problems) and this makes it simply impossible. There will always be that feeling in my balls, that sexual energy - not cravings, but real sexual energy - and if I judge fantasies about real women as bad as porn fantasies, this sexual energy will of course align itself towards porn. Also my main problem is not ED but not getting excited enough by real women because the combination of social isolation with instagram and porn raised my standards of attractive women too high. It would be beneficial for me if fantasies about real women become a new habit.

 

[Jeks]

Ok z, thats fine.

You have got to try and figure things out for yourself. Maybe that does actually help you. My own experience and a lot i have read go against it, but that doesnt mean, that this isnt the right way for you. Just note that you may not know the difference between "real sexual energy" and cravings. You did not have sex before and are using porn since you are young. Just keep being mindful, keep reading and learning and look how things go.

On your relapse: just recall why you are want to quit and get back as soon as you can.

Good luck man.

 

[Z]

There's a simple rule for my reboot: Private internet access always leads to watching porn. I can really do everything via public hotspots besides online exams but it will take more than a month until they take place.

I took the internet cable on Saturday in the morning, mainly to do some work for university. Now it's Sunday night and I did nothing for university, using the internet mainly for porn. I had sessions over several hours on both days. Now I'll remove the cable again.

 

[Z]

Day 1

This was the most productive day in a long time. Throughout the whole day I worked on several of my projects with real success. My mind is fully back on porn and it's absolutely great. There seems to be no other source of passion as strong as the long-term goal of being able to attract extremely hot women. Everytime I thought about stopping my work I could easily continue by thinking of this goal. I am sure that I would have watched porn if I had internet access at home and this would have led to a completely different day. Thinking of real attractive women while not being able to see them seems to be an enormous source of energy. I should get rid of these thoughts though, when my libido comes back it will be a trigger that will be almost impossible to resist. But for now I just feel very good about the return of my energy and my accomplishments of the day.

 

[Z]

Day 2

My energy was not as high as yesterday but it still was a good day without procrastination. I took the time to assure myself of my reasons for quitting porn again and why I have to do it now. The time is running too fast. I have to stop porn, porn fantasies, masturbation and edging until the 15th of June. I am lucky that my porn addiction and PIED are in a comparably early stadium but I still have to do something to get rid of them. Today I couldn't get a rocksolid erection by pure touching and I'm sure in a few days I will be able to get it, so it's dependent on the time since ejaculation. Until June there is no reason to get back the internet cable, I can do everything from outside. This has to be a strong rule. There only is this one girl and I checked out her profile yesterday and just now. Just one second to see if there is a new picture, no sexual stuff, just normal selfies with big lips. It's as if I had a crush on her lmao, I really have to stop it.

 

[username is not available]

Yeah man you gotta cut it all out, stop going on social media and if you do cut all the women out on it, don't even touch your dick even to know if you can get hard, it needs rest. You have to hit a long flatline then you will know youre healing.

 

[zander13]

Hey man,

Edging is worse for you than ejaculating. It's all about dopamine. Edging is the ultimate chemical dump.