Leonidas
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As the process of recovery keeps going forth, I realize that other things, or rather thought patterns, have kept me from living a more authentic life. How strange indeed it is when back in my early 30s, whenever a female friend expressed an interest in more than friendship, it's like a switch was suddenly flipped: "here's a sex opportunity!" Well, I never did take the step of converting those feelings into action because somehow I couldn't rationalize the "re-classification" of friends into booty-material as it simply wasn't right for me. I am not worried about actions; what I am worried is about thought. Why did I think these things, why did I harbor these fantasies?
The mind is tricky. It plays on childhood memories, life experiences, insecurities and vulnerabilities, even on disposition to fantasize (in general, about everything). But one question I keep reminding myself of brings me back to baseline: "Who do I want to be?" I know it can be tough, when suddenly I am assaulted with a deluge of feelings.. and it can be hard to break from an addictive-like pattern of thought. But sooner or later, one has to come back to rest. After the storms, come the peace and quiet. What would I like to be as a person, during the long peaceful stretches of time? That might change during the storms... but essentially I am mostly the person I am when in a state of calm.
Who do I want to be?
(day 25 I believe)
The mind is tricky. It plays on childhood memories, life experiences, insecurities and vulnerabilities, even on disposition to fantasize (in general, about everything). But one question I keep reminding myself of brings me back to baseline: "Who do I want to be?" I know it can be tough, when suddenly I am assaulted with a deluge of feelings.. and it can be hard to break from an addictive-like pattern of thought. But sooner or later, one has to come back to rest. After the storms, come the peace and quiet. What would I like to be as a person, during the long peaceful stretches of time? That might change during the storms... but essentially I am mostly the person I am when in a state of calm.
Who do I want to be?
(day 25 I believe)