About me
I'm a Spanish 32 years old male. I have been consuming porn for around half of my life, although It got worst in the last 4-5 years.
That was the moment when I started living alone on a big city, when I broke up with my gf at that time, and when I started to have many new sexual partners. I think I started to consume more porn as a response to my more sexual life, everything on my life was about sex, so if I was at home, consuming porn was as natural as taking a glass of water. Until some now-well-known symptoms of porn addiction araised:
My goals
My goals are to quit porn forever, and to quit masturbation until I feel (4) and (5) are healed (having erections naturally: by kissing, seeing a desired naked body, intimate petting...). Just to have some kind of orientation, I have the standard 90 days on my head, but could be more or could be less, considering the progress on those points. Quitting from sex for a long period is more complex as I live with my GF and I have some sexual partners I do not want to lose, so at my best I think I will be having sex at least once each 2-3 weeks.
Quitting porn forever means solving (1) too. The reason I don't see (2) and (3) as problems to solve is because I don't feel any moral criticism to those. I would have no problem dating with men too if, after quitting porn, that is what I actually want to do.
So, summarizing:
Starting status
To be honest, I joined this road two weeks ago. I made 14 days without PM, but having sex + bad day caused me to relapse yesterday and I PMO with soft-porn, I know this is one of the risks of allowing sex during this time, and I can not let it happen again. I have my personal journal on G. Drive with a more freewritting style to come in at any point of the day I want to register something, but I will also keep track of my progress here, in a more constructed style.
So see ya, thanks for reading, and any input is more than welcome : )
I'm a Spanish 32 years old male. I have been consuming porn for around half of my life, although It got worst in the last 4-5 years.
That was the moment when I started living alone on a big city, when I broke up with my gf at that time, and when I started to have many new sexual partners. I think I started to consume more porn as a response to my more sexual life, everything on my life was about sex, so if I was at home, consuming porn was as natural as taking a glass of water. Until some now-well-known symptoms of porn addiction araised:
- I was PMO 4-6 times a day, sometimes I even just watched porn while working/eating, just to get some pleasant numb feeling on my head.
- I was getting arousal by some extreme fetishes, and always on compilation/multi-tab/split screen mode (Coolidge effect)
- I was consuming porn that did not match my sexual orientation.
- I was loosing attraction to my new GF, and only feeling excited about porn or new girls (we have an open-relationship).
- It became very difficult, almost impossible, to have an erection without performing some of the porn-induced tastes.
My goals
My goals are to quit porn forever, and to quit masturbation until I feel (4) and (5) are healed (having erections naturally: by kissing, seeing a desired naked body, intimate petting...). Just to have some kind of orientation, I have the standard 90 days on my head, but could be more or could be less, considering the progress on those points. Quitting from sex for a long period is more complex as I live with my GF and I have some sexual partners I do not want to lose, so at my best I think I will be having sex at least once each 2-3 weeks.
Quitting porn forever means solving (1) too. The reason I don't see (2) and (3) as problems to solve is because I don't feel any moral criticism to those. I would have no problem dating with men too if, after quitting porn, that is what I actually want to do.
So, summarizing:
- No porn: forever
- No masturbation: ~90 days
- No sex: ~21 days
Starting status
To be honest, I joined this road two weeks ago. I made 14 days without PM, but having sex + bad day caused me to relapse yesterday and I PMO with soft-porn, I know this is one of the risks of allowing sex during this time, and I can not let it happen again. I have my personal journal on G. Drive with a more freewritting style to come in at any point of the day I want to register something, but I will also keep track of my progress here, in a more constructed style.
So see ya, thanks for reading, and any input is more than welcome : )
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