Porn is not an option
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Blondie
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I'm having a hard time focusing today. I don't think this is porn related, just stress with deadlines for midterms coming this week etc. With no vices to fall back on these days, I have nowhere to run from my anxieties, except working out, meditation and sex. I've done all three today, so I guess that means it's time to start studying!
Almost 6 months out and still trying to learn how to be an adult. I'm not complaining or judging here, just observing my actions, or, lack of them!
Almost 6 months out and still trying to learn how to be an adult. I'm not complaining or judging here, just observing my actions, or, lack of them!
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Love the way you think and your approach towards things.
Keep it up my guy!!
Keep it up my guy!!
Blondie
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Day 168
I bounced back yesterday and got some good studying done in the later half of the day, so that felt good. It's hard to find the balance of, I need a break and some time to chill, but not let that go too far the other direction.
Signing off on my Fortify account last night, I realized something, that really hit me hard, and I wanted to share it. It's easy to get caught up in the number of days, and often forget the bigger picture. Sure, we might lose a few days here and there with a relapse, but it's what you're accomplishing on the grand scale that is important, and that is what you should be focusing on. Thus, last night I saw that I just finished my 167th day, which is great, but then I noticed a number below that, that I hadn't really noticed before. It said this year in total, I've had a total of 309 victories and only 4 setbacks! This really hit me hard, because I hadn't really thought about it like that. Why is it so hard to only focus on our current streak and those shity days when we relapsed, instead of looking at, and congratulating ourselves, on our victory overall, in the grade scheme of things?
So if you've just relapsed, and are feeling down and depressed, don't be too hard on yourself, because it's the big picture that matters. If you went from looking at porn every day to relapsing once a week, that should be commended. That means you just went from looking at porn 365 days a year to only 52 days a year! That is quite the accomplishment. And let us not think in black in white, that to praise ourselves because of a week without porn, is the same thing as saying it's okay to look at porn once a week. No, every time we dust ourselves off to start afresh, we should be planning on never looking at porn again. "Do or do not, there is no try" as the little man says. But, if you do happen to fall, I beg of you, do look at the big picture. It might just bring a tear to your eye.
I bounced back yesterday and got some good studying done in the later half of the day, so that felt good. It's hard to find the balance of, I need a break and some time to chill, but not let that go too far the other direction.
Signing off on my Fortify account last night, I realized something, that really hit me hard, and I wanted to share it. It's easy to get caught up in the number of days, and often forget the bigger picture. Sure, we might lose a few days here and there with a relapse, but it's what you're accomplishing on the grand scale that is important, and that is what you should be focusing on. Thus, last night I saw that I just finished my 167th day, which is great, but then I noticed a number below that, that I hadn't really noticed before. It said this year in total, I've had a total of 309 victories and only 4 setbacks! This really hit me hard, because I hadn't really thought about it like that. Why is it so hard to only focus on our current streak and those shity days when we relapsed, instead of looking at, and congratulating ourselves, on our victory overall, in the grade scheme of things?
So if you've just relapsed, and are feeling down and depressed, don't be too hard on yourself, because it's the big picture that matters. If you went from looking at porn every day to relapsing once a week, that should be commended. That means you just went from looking at porn 365 days a year to only 52 days a year! That is quite the accomplishment. And let us not think in black in white, that to praise ourselves because of a week without porn, is the same thing as saying it's okay to look at porn once a week. No, every time we dust ourselves off to start afresh, we should be planning on never looking at porn again. "Do or do not, there is no try" as the little man says. But, if you do happen to fall, I beg of you, do look at the big picture. It might just bring a tear to your eye.
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Blondie
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Day 169
"What man can you show me who places any value on his time, who reckons the worth of each day, who understands that he is dying daily? For we are mistaken when we look forward to death; the major portion of death has already passed, Whatever years be behind us are in death's hands. Therefore, Lucilius, do as you write me that you are doing: hold every hour in your grasp. Lay hold of to-day's task, and you will not need to depend so much upon to-morrow's.
While we are postponing, life speeds by. Nothing, Lucilius, is ours, except time. We were entrusted by nature with the ownership of this single thing, so fleeting and slippery that anyone who will can oust us from possession. What fools these mortals be! They allow the cheapest and most useless things, which can easily be replaced, to be charged in the reckoning, after they have acquired them; but they never regard themselves as in debt when they have received some of that precious commodity, - time! And yet time is the one loan which even a grateful recipient cannot repay." -Seneca
"What man can you show me who places any value on his time, who reckons the worth of each day, who understands that he is dying daily? For we are mistaken when we look forward to death; the major portion of death has already passed, Whatever years be behind us are in death's hands. Therefore, Lucilius, do as you write me that you are doing: hold every hour in your grasp. Lay hold of to-day's task, and you will not need to depend so much upon to-morrow's.
While we are postponing, life speeds by. Nothing, Lucilius, is ours, except time. We were entrusted by nature with the ownership of this single thing, so fleeting and slippery that anyone who will can oust us from possession. What fools these mortals be! They allow the cheapest and most useless things, which can easily be replaced, to be charged in the reckoning, after they have acquired them; but they never regard themselves as in debt when they have received some of that precious commodity, - time! And yet time is the one loan which even a grateful recipient cannot repay." -Seneca
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particularly_respecting
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169 days - truly inspirational. Really something to look up to and see what's possible
Great quote from Seneca too - very fitting to the struggles we are going through in this community
Great quote from Seneca too - very fitting to the struggles we are going through in this community
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Reading this makes me miss philosophy and stoicism. Might just read Enchiridion again and get all the other books I've been wanting to read.
You're doing great my guy, thank you always for the support and advice
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Blondie
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Day 170
Had a great productive day yesterday. I was exhausted by the end of it, but it a healthy way. I think I did great on my midterm (and I loved the focus I had throughout the day. That stoic quote I posted yesterday, seemed to have helped me throughout the day, so I will start reading that every morning to get me all fired up!
As I'm getting closer to my big goal of 6 months, I'm trying to be extra cautious. I'm having no strong urges, just some random flashbacks here and there, where I almost feel I'm not in charge of my brain for a moment. It's really strange and surprises me when it happens. Hell, just writing that last sentence pisses me off, who doesn't want to be in charge of the thoughts? Fuck porn, and everything it stands for!
Stay strong everyone, and remember, going back, is never worth it.
"The foolish man thinks he will live forever if he keeps away from fighting; but old age won't grant him a truce, even if the spears do."
- Havamal
Had a great productive day yesterday. I was exhausted by the end of it, but it a healthy way. I think I did great on my midterm (and I loved the focus I had throughout the day. That stoic quote I posted yesterday, seemed to have helped me throughout the day, so I will start reading that every morning to get me all fired up!
As I'm getting closer to my big goal of 6 months, I'm trying to be extra cautious. I'm having no strong urges, just some random flashbacks here and there, where I almost feel I'm not in charge of my brain for a moment. It's really strange and surprises me when it happens. Hell, just writing that last sentence pisses me off, who doesn't want to be in charge of the thoughts? Fuck porn, and everything it stands for!
Stay strong everyone, and remember, going back, is never worth it.
"The foolish man thinks he will live forever if he keeps away from fighting; but old age won't grant him a truce, even if the spears do."
- Havamal
SmokenMirrors
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Day 170! Yes! I am in awe!
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Bom dia pessoal, está sendo meu décimo dia sem masturbação ou pornografia, mas na realidade eu estarei contando como o segundo, pois foi ontem que comecei a ler e participar do nação Reboot, mas estou gostando de saber que tem muita gente que passa pelo mesmo problema que eu, e que quer mudar cada descrição se encaixa da maneira que aconteceu comigo também, mas é bom saber que vcs também estão lutando muito isso incentiva a gente, além das melhorias que tiveram, por enquanto meus dias estão sendo tranquilos apesar de uma ou outra tentação...
Blondie
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Day 172
Yesterday was a bitch of a day, put I pulled through in the end. It certainly wasn't my best day procrastination-wise, but I did get my ass in gear when the time called for it. I do feel I'm getting better at handling life on its own terms, which is a pleasant feeling.
Yesterday was a bitch of a day, put I pulled through in the end. It certainly wasn't my best day procrastination-wise, but I did get my ass in gear when the time called for it. I do feel I'm getting better at handling life on its own terms, which is a pleasant feeling.
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Keep it up! It's a sign that you're healing!