particularly_respecting
Active Member
I am thinking of you like Rocky - "he's not getting killed. He's getting mad!"
Six months will be a truly massive achievement - it's the last round brother. You got this!
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Six months will be a truly massive achievement - it's the last round brother. You got this!
Blondie
Respected Member
Day 175
Yesterday I finished all my midterms, so I'm officially now on spring break! It feels good to get that all behind me and to know I didn't fuck up with all the stress I was feeling. However, I did eat like a pig over the weekend, so that's not great, but far better than any other vice of mine I suppose. I'm proud of myself of this accomplishment, but feeling overly cautious as well. O how many times have I blown it, right after feeling good about something! Just 5 more days to go and I will have reached my goal of six months.
Stay strong everyone, and have a great porn free week!
"Recovery is not blazing a trail alone. On the contrary, it is walking a well-worn path with peers all supporting each other while traveling to the same destination." –Therapy metaphor.
Yesterday I finished all my midterms, so I'm officially now on spring break! It feels good to get that all behind me and to know I didn't fuck up with all the stress I was feeling. However, I did eat like a pig over the weekend, so that's not great, but far better than any other vice of mine I suppose. I'm proud of myself of this accomplishment, but feeling overly cautious as well. O how many times have I blown it, right after feeling good about something! Just 5 more days to go and I will have reached my goal of six months.
Stay strong everyone, and have a great porn free week!
"Recovery is not blazing a trail alone. On the contrary, it is walking a well-worn path with peers all supporting each other while traveling to the same destination." –Therapy metaphor.
Onmyway19
Active Member
Congrats on your multiple wins. Each milestone is definitely worth celebrating. Love the quote at the end. I really don't think I'd be where I'm at without the support from my family and from this forum. I think most of us here have learned or are learning that, as personal as this is, you definitely need a support system in place. I really enjoy hearing of everyone's successes on this forum. Also, seeing the resilience of continuing to fight for what we know we need, even after slipping or relapsing. It's important to not let the bad moments outweigh all the good progress we all have made.
You're setting a great example for all here, and showing its possiible to live a great porn free life.
You're setting a great example for all here, and showing its possiible to live a great porn free life.
Blondie
Respected Member
Day 176
"I really don't think I'd be where I'm at without the support from my family and from this forum. I think most of us here have learned or are learning that, as personal as this is, you definitely need a support system in place. I really enjoy hearing of everyone's successes on this forum. Also, seeing the resilience of continuing to fight for what we know we need, even after slipping or relapsing."
Thank you Onmyway19. Yes, having a support system is key in a strong recovery. Reboot Nation has been very beneficial.
"I really don't think I'd be where I'm at without the support from my family and from this forum. I think most of us here have learned or are learning that, as personal as this is, you definitely need a support system in place. I really enjoy hearing of everyone's successes on this forum. Also, seeing the resilience of continuing to fight for what we know we need, even after slipping or relapsing."
Thank you Onmyway19. Yes, having a support system is key in a strong recovery. Reboot Nation has been very beneficial.
Prakash
Member
All every thing is ok.... Tell me about sexual conditions... How is changing
Blondie
Respected Member
Day 179
“I have learned this: it is not what one does that is wrong but what one becomes as a consequence of it.” –Oscar Wilde
I thought this was an interesting idea in my daily reading this morning. Looking at porn, or other vices, is not a so called moral failure, but it's the habit of it, especially when one loses control, that is the real problem. Thus, even we when relapse, we shouldn't fret about it so much, because in the end, just the fact that we've spent more days away from porn than we have with it, is alreadly great progress.
Give it hell today everyone.
“I have learned this: it is not what one does that is wrong but what one becomes as a consequence of it.” –Oscar Wilde
I thought this was an interesting idea in my daily reading this morning. Looking at porn, or other vices, is not a so called moral failure, but it's the habit of it, especially when one loses control, that is the real problem. Thus, even we when relapse, we shouldn't fret about it so much, because in the end, just the fact that we've spent more days away from porn than we have with it, is alreadly great progress.
Give it hell today everyone.
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viking1234
Active Member
Happens every now then... just pissed off at the world. I never thought that PMO could have anything to do, but now that you mention it could be. Keep going!
particularly_respecting
Active Member
179 days - huge achievement
I'm giving it hell today - you do too!
I'm giving it hell today - you do too!
Blondie
Respected Member
Day 180
Damn I finally made it! This is truly hard to believe. 6 months ago I fucked up so bad, I thought I would possibly lose my girlfriend. At that time I had no hope of ever getting past 4 months porn free, much less 6 months. But here I am, the same guy but yet somehow different. Life isn't perfect, and I've definitely had my ups and downs over the past months, but I feel I'm more able to handle the downs better now, which is very exciting. I acknowledge I have a long ways to go yet, because let's be honest, this journey never ends, but today I'm a very happy man indeed.
Thank you all for your encouragement over the last few months, you have all been so helpful! This place is a wonderful community. I found this quote in my reading today, a book called Gifts of Recovery, and I was blow away by its truth.
"Aikido is a martial art based on using an opponent's energy against them. In the practice of this martial art, keeping a center of balance is important. There is a story in the Aikido community about a student and his master. One day, the student asked his master, "Sensei, how is it that you never lose your center?" The master replied, "You misunderstand. I lose my center all the time. I am just faster at recognizing it and getting back to my center than you are." This idea can be applied to our life in recovery as well. Our work is not to find the perfect center and stay there; it is to recognize the signals that let us know we have slid away from our center and use our tools of sobriety and recovery to return us to our center."
My us all become Jedi masters in recognizing when we get off center!
Thanks everyone!
Damn I finally made it! This is truly hard to believe. 6 months ago I fucked up so bad, I thought I would possibly lose my girlfriend. At that time I had no hope of ever getting past 4 months porn free, much less 6 months. But here I am, the same guy but yet somehow different. Life isn't perfect, and I've definitely had my ups and downs over the past months, but I feel I'm more able to handle the downs better now, which is very exciting. I acknowledge I have a long ways to go yet, because let's be honest, this journey never ends, but today I'm a very happy man indeed.
Thank you all for your encouragement over the last few months, you have all been so helpful! This place is a wonderful community. I found this quote in my reading today, a book called Gifts of Recovery, and I was blow away by its truth.
"Aikido is a martial art based on using an opponent's energy against them. In the practice of this martial art, keeping a center of balance is important. There is a story in the Aikido community about a student and his master. One day, the student asked his master, "Sensei, how is it that you never lose your center?" The master replied, "You misunderstand. I lose my center all the time. I am just faster at recognizing it and getting back to my center than you are." This idea can be applied to our life in recovery as well. Our work is not to find the perfect center and stay there; it is to recognize the signals that let us know we have slid away from our center and use our tools of sobriety and recovery to return us to our center."
My us all become Jedi masters in recognizing when we get off center!
Thanks everyone!
SmokenMirrors
Well-Known Member
Yes mate! Huge step!
particularly_respecting
Active Member
Amazing achievement - thank you for showing us what's possible
Does this mark a new stage of recovery?
I know you've done longer streaks in the past, but I mean that as the time spent not looking at porn gets longer, will you be doing anything different?
Or still keep going the same way you have so far? (it's obviously working!)
Great work again - really inspiring!
Does this mark a new stage of recovery?
I know you've done longer streaks in the past, but I mean that as the time spent not looking at porn gets longer, will you be doing anything different?
Or still keep going the same way you have so far? (it's obviously working!)
Great work again - really inspiring!
Blondie
Respected Member
Day 181
That's a good question Particularlyrespecting. At the moment, I will continue with the same plan as usual, just setting one month goals at a time and going day by day. I'm still a whole year out from reaching my longest streak, so definitely month to month, day by day, is my best plan of attack. At this point, I've only accomplished this 6 month goal only a hand full of times in my life, 3 times at most; once in my 20s, another time around 9 years ago (though I can't remember exactly how long it was) and for sure when I officially started this journey 4 years ago. So I need to remind myself how big this is for me, and force myself to rejoice, I'm quite the perfectionist!
Standing six months out is interesting, on one hand, porn seems very far away, yet on the other, still lingering in the shadows. I think my biggest threat is my mental game, and not getting complaisant. Thus, I will continue to post on here frequently and continue working on handling the real world as it is, and not running away, whenever I don't like it.
Stay strong everyone!
Porn is not an option.
That's a good question Particularlyrespecting. At the moment, I will continue with the same plan as usual, just setting one month goals at a time and going day by day. I'm still a whole year out from reaching my longest streak, so definitely month to month, day by day, is my best plan of attack. At this point, I've only accomplished this 6 month goal only a hand full of times in my life, 3 times at most; once in my 20s, another time around 9 years ago (though I can't remember exactly how long it was) and for sure when I officially started this journey 4 years ago. So I need to remind myself how big this is for me, and force myself to rejoice, I'm quite the perfectionist!
Standing six months out is interesting, on one hand, porn seems very far away, yet on the other, still lingering in the shadows. I think my biggest threat is my mental game, and not getting complaisant. Thus, I will continue to post on here frequently and continue working on handling the real world as it is, and not running away, whenever I don't like it.
Stay strong everyone!
Porn is not an option.