Sounds like you have an awesome brother, lady! Looks like he gave you the keys to beat this thing, even if he went away.
A little support because I want to become Better
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TryingHarder
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Those are very common thoughts when you're young (or at any age). People always think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, but it isn't. Everyone has their struggles and burdens. What people show you on Instagram is an idealized version of what life is really like. Concentrate on what's positive, productive, and creative in your life. It takes time to adopt that mindset and be thankful for what you have and who you are.
And good idea to quit social media for a year. Instead of FOMO (fear of missing out), practice JOMO (joy of missing out).
Joseph porter
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You're taking great steps towards freedom and that's so brave of you
. It'a never was easy with time will get better. I can relate with the feeling of looking at other people's lives and basing that as a standard of my own and comparing myself to where I'm in my life. It sucks but what helped me through it was realising that everyone has their own life to live and usually people online only want to portray as though everything's okay maybe for validation from others when deep down their lives behind the camera is just a polar opposite.
You have a purposeful life to live @ladysudan and each step you take towards creating that's amazing and one day you be happy with the sacrifices as they were not in vain.
All the best
. It'a never was easy with time will get better. I can relate with the feeling of looking at other people's lives and basing that as a standard of my own and comparing myself to where I'm in my life. It sucks but what helped me through it was realising that everyone has their own life to live and usually people online only want to portray as though everything's okay maybe for validation from others when deep down their lives behind the camera is just a polar opposite. You have a purposeful life to live @ladysudan and each step you take towards creating that's amazing and one day you be happy with the sacrifices as they were not in vain.
All the best
Bawanda
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Hey!
I think it's all related to reward that you are giving yourself by M and O. teenage forces are very powerful, you can avoid and divert this force to some small act where you can get reward that make you feel worthy in your peer group or in your family. First and foremost never be alone in a room ever always be with your family member or friend even during sleep. Because this is so powerful urge that in teenage it's very difficult to overcome it. I advice you to give up all your egos If you have with your friends and family because when you find some of your peer member annoying you or making fun of yours you think better to be alone you will release that frustration by rewarding yourself by PMO. Because when you are addiction to something and you are out of your mind this it is very easy to get annoyed at nothing or anything.
Do small small tasks where you can get good reward in your peer circle or in your school. Even if you do MO after some day don't watch porn and don't close your eyes too while MO. You will be ok. Remember you are strong enough to escape these petty pleasures and we have proven that everything is possible girl.
That's my suggestion best on my encounter with PMO. Hope it serves you. Thankyou
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SmokenMirrors
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This simply isn't true, your sexuality is a scale. It is determined primarily by genes, you can't help where you sit on the sexuality scale!
ladysudan
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I appreciate your suggestions and I also agree that watching porn can influence your actions and thoughts in so many ways.
Here's what I have to say :
Talking about No PMO journey, I am thankful for your advice.
*Also I'm never mentioning those touchy topics that might start something problematic.*
Here's what I have to say :
Whether someone is straight or is a part of LGBTQ community, they identify themselves as part of it on the basis of feelings of emotions and not only on sexual desires. I agree there are some P videos with the same p stars that take part in straight as well as gay videos. So we realize that it's the model of this industry that is just focused on making money, even if it means to target peoples' insecurities. I think it would be to wrong to say that people who belong to LGBTQ community have some chromosomal imbalance. They were just born with it and no one can change it. So why not to just accept it?
Talking about No PMO journey, I am thankful for your advice.
*Also I'm never mentioning those touchy topics that might start something problematic.*
Bawanda
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Bawanda
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I did mention chromosomal imbalance that is just genetic change from normal I only said because she is watching porn and then started thinking that she is gay might be. But never mind because we are not here to decide anything for others.
You have an awesome focus, ladysudan! Sometimes foolish and silly distractions occur, and to not let that deter you or discourage you is important. Keep doing what you're doing!
ladysudan
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Day 29: 12 July
No PMO.
I've decided to update my journal after every 3 days as soon as I complete my first 30 days of no PMO.
I might have almost completed my 1 month without PMO but my focus towards my priorities is pretty much low. I need to work on that.
I will also add on to my journal, giving a brief info and account into my life after every 3 days and also by counting the days of not using YouTube and IG. This is a step to control my procrastination and completely disconnect and disappear for a while.
Speaking of urges, well, you know, fml. I experienced such a strong urge during a test..... that disturbance in my brain was reflected in my score.
No PMO.
I've decided to update my journal after every 3 days as soon as I complete my first 30 days of no PMO.
I might have almost completed my 1 month without PMO but my focus towards my priorities is pretty much low. I need to work on that.
I will also add on to my journal, giving a brief info and account into my life after every 3 days and also by counting the days of not using YouTube and IG. This is a step to control my procrastination and completely disconnect and disappear for a while.
Speaking of urges, well, you know, fml. I experienced such a strong urge during a test..... that disturbance in my brain was reflected in my score.
TryingHarder
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Happy 30 days eve, Ladysudan! You're doing great, and as more time goes on without porn and social media, those urges should start to fade away.
ladysudan
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Only 1st page was so relatable enough that got me so hooked on to read this book!!!!!!!!!!
@tryingtobreakfree thank you!!!!!!!!!
easypeasy
Painlessly quit pornography without any sense of deprivation or sacrifice.
easypeasymethod.org
@tryingtobreakfree thank you!!!!!!!!!
ladysudan
Active Member
Thanks!!!!!! Maybe I need a strict training for 30 days more but everything will be worth it in the end!
Joseph porter
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So happy for your progress @ladysudan. You have put in the work and have reaped the benefits. 30 day's is no easy feat and we're all proud of you. May each day going forth be less stressful than the last and may everything fall into place
Good luck!
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I'm glad to learn that!Only 1st page was so relatable enough that got me so hooked on to read this book!!!!!!!!!!
easypeasy
Painlessly quit pornography without any sense of deprivation or sacrifice.easypeasymethod.org
@tryingtobreakfree thank you!!!!!!!!!
and congratulations on 30 days! It's been a month since u last indulged in this thing. I look forward to see you breaking more streaks.