No PMO Day 86; no MO Day 24
It was an interesting day. I woke up from an erotic dream about an acquaintance of mine. I had not been thinking about her recently, but last time I logged into Facebook, maybe a week ago, she had posted a video of her singing a song in a bikini and crazy makeup that autoplayed. Usually I would watch it, but that time I decided it wasn't healthy for me and stopped it pretty quickly, not thinking any more about it after. In the dream, I was the main character of a show I am watching with my partner. My acquaintance was the character of a beautiful temptress witch in the show, that my partner had expressed a dislike of a number of times. I awoke from it having enjoyed it a little too much, struck by the (somewhat too neat) psychological process of it, and a little disturbed given my recent lapses into fantasy.
My partner and I ended up having sex briefly while my son played in the living room. It was wholesome, loving, and completely present. No one climaxed, nor was it necessary. We talked a little later. I told her about the dream. She wasn't upset and mentioned that she knows I find her sexy. She also laughed at the cheesy role-playing nature of it. We discussed my progress of no PMO a little. She asked me (without judgement) if I have always been dissatisfied with what I have (in general, and previous relationships), and thought about other people, greener pastures etc. I told her I haven't found a way to regulate my desires yet but I am trying to work it out. She said that the earlier sex hadn't been like sex, but a beautiful moment of family intimacy.
I was quite anxious during the afternoon as I was going back to work for the first time after getting COVID. I journaled, did some some chores and then meditated for 10 mins before it began. In the past I would have just PMO'd and then almost been late for work. The meditation is something I have been planning on but putting off for a long time. It felt good to disrupt my circle.
Also in the past, I would have been frustrated about having sex and not climaxing. It would have bugged me into the night, and maybe felt unresolved into the next day unless I MO'd - and still the emotional dissatisfaction would have lingered. Maybe it's a testament to the rebooting process that this is not the case. I definitely feel my desire has been opened. With some anxiety about how to control it, but without the negativity.
Overall a positive day.