16. A better sleep helps everything feel more manageable lol. I was tired yesterday at work, but supporting others with things helped take my mind off my stuff. I still had this sense of injustice and anger about this connection, and came very close to deleting some profiles and apps. I feel like I am working up to it, then get confused or hopeful about it or the attachment kicks in. I do know its the right thing to do - I even moved the files of all the pics and videos she made for me into the trash although halted at the empty trash haha. Honestly I didn't want to even post about deleting profiles, because there is a part of me that really doesnt want to, and feels very attached to the video messages etc
Anyway, I am getting there. I watched some videos about toxic relationships and letting go, which were inspiring, and found some hypnosis on youtube to help let go which I will try out this weekend. I also notice shame at letting myself fall into this situation, feels pathetic to the warrior in me. Thats why sometimes shame is a positive thing - it does help you garner strength.
So obviously my why is strong enough around PMO and porn, but I need to reinforce it a bit when it comes to the kind of relationship I want and moving away from kink relationships. So, I will write that out if I have any time today if not over the weekend. Basically while it seems like two missions, they are the same really - kink is absolutely fed and kept alive by porn and the grey areas (which are fast turning red) and the whole point was to have a beautiful loving relationship with lovely present, embodied, and sacred sex. I need to keep it simple.
I know that if I do delete everything and quit that there will be a kind of emptiness, but no greater than voids I have faced before - PMO, alcohol, etc Its just a case of using all the tools, again..
Anyway, its Friday, will go dancing tonight..another day PMO free, and things are moving forward with the 'grey' areas
Anyway, I am getting there. I watched some videos about toxic relationships and letting go, which were inspiring, and found some hypnosis on youtube to help let go which I will try out this weekend. I also notice shame at letting myself fall into this situation, feels pathetic to the warrior in me. Thats why sometimes shame is a positive thing - it does help you garner strength.
So obviously my why is strong enough around PMO and porn, but I need to reinforce it a bit when it comes to the kind of relationship I want and moving away from kink relationships. So, I will write that out if I have any time today if not over the weekend. Basically while it seems like two missions, they are the same really - kink is absolutely fed and kept alive by porn and the grey areas (which are fast turning red) and the whole point was to have a beautiful loving relationship with lovely present, embodied, and sacred sex. I need to keep it simple.
I know that if I do delete everything and quit that there will be a kind of emptiness, but no greater than voids I have faced before - PMO, alcohol, etc Its just a case of using all the tools, again..
Anyway, its Friday, will go dancing tonight..another day PMO free, and things are moving forward with the 'grey' areas