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logicprox

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4 days. When I am struggling to stay away from PMO, I am usually thinking of it in terms of reasons i shouldn't use, but there's always counterpoints I can make to justify using. When things are going great, I am usually thinking of it in terms of reasons I should use, and there just aren't any. Because PMO does nothing for me.
 
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logicprox

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Ok so the triggers since I lost the big streak are basically getting excessively tired due to lack of sleep combined with heavy exercise, and alcohol.

There are things I can do to avoid each but also things I can do to mitigate them. Will talk more about that tomorrow because I am short on time today but forward again.
 
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logicprox

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1 day. It is all tricks, there is no question about that. I think the issue is, especially when I get excessively tired but also when I drink, my brain basically turns off. At least, the System 2 thinking part (for anyone familiar with the book Thinking Fast and Slow) does, so I just do whatever the habit driven instinct brain wants. That said, it's typically not just tired -> PMO. There's usually a point where I realize I don't have the energy to do what I am trying to do but try to force it anyway and when that fails is when my brain goes into the habit loop. So I just need to walk away.

On alcohol it's a few things.

1. Drink less. Not complicated. I don't need to get full-on drunk when I go out with people. A little buzzed is sufficient.
2. Let the alcohol fade a bit before I go home, ie. back off any alcohol like an hour before I am going home.
3. Just forget about doing anything after I get home. Turn off the lights, turn off my phone, get in bed.

If I can avoid using when excessively tired or using alcohol, I really should mostly be home free, because that's beeen almost all my uses since I lost the streak.
 
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logicprox

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3 days. I need to break my caffeine addiction. Going to start actually measuring gradually decreasing my daily intake. It's an indirect contributor to my porn use, but truthfully in my experience it helps in the moment I have some but makes me feel more tired until I get it and after it wears off. And being tired is trigger #1 for me nowdays.
 
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Blondie

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Hey @logicprox. Caffeine can be a real bitch. I use to be addicted to it as well, and drank tons of it every day, hard to say how much. I eventually got it down to just one small cup of coffee per day, and if anything extra, only decaf. As I'm sure you know, it's no fun having to relay on something to "be in the mood", that's not how to live.

Best brother.
 
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logicprox

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1 day.

Well I have been gone a minute. I kept meaning to come back last year but kept being embarrassed that I was not getting far...shame is definitely one of my biggest roadblocks and one I need to work on this year.

Then January and the first couple weeks of February I was out of town working 15 hour days + weekends and admittedly didn't even try. I said February would be my New Year.

Well that was stupid and lazy but here I am now.
 
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