Day 82
No urges today.
I think it’s worth mentioning the role that meditation / mindfulness has played throughout this journey. For most men, even those who are aware that PMO is a destructive habit, the decision to watch porn isn’t really a decision at all, but rather a compulsion. It reflexive and largely automatic. We’ve been conditioned, like Pavlov’s dog, to open up an incognito window and lock the door whenever an urge to PMO arises.
However, mindfulness teaches one to examine his thoughts and to be skeptical of the utility of acting upon every urge. I began meditating 3 years ago, and my regular meditation practice has helped me immensely in recognizing the fleeting nature of thoughts and impulses. It’s hard to explain and is something that one needs to experience firsthand to truly grasp, but cultivating the ability to see urges for what they are (i.e., nothing more than ephemeral waves of energy) is an indispensable tool in overcoming this addiction. I do not think it’s an exaggeration to state that without meditation, I would still be languishing in the hell that is porn addiction. For those looking to take up meditation, I would recommend Sam Harris’ ‘Waking Up’ app — this is what I have been using in my daily practice.
Have a porn-free weekend, gents.