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ssoac
Guest
Thank you guys for your advice and support!
I ain't rolling over, though its tough at times.
Just amazed, on almost daily bases by the number of elephants that have been in the room
godspeed everyone
I ain't rolling over, though its tough at times.
Just amazed, on almost daily bases by the number of elephants that have been in the room
godspeed everyone
Tclay
Active Member
SSOAC
I think you may be experiencing something I have gone through, specifically; as you begin to separate from PMO your view of the world changes. From this emerging perspective, you get a clearer (more accurate) view of your life, your actions, and eventually you may realize how important your actions and attitude are to you and your loved ones. I am willing to bet that your perspective now is a more accurate reality then a couple of weeks ago.
I think you may be experiencing something I have gone through, specifically; as you begin to separate from PMO your view of the world changes. From this emerging perspective, you get a clearer (more accurate) view of your life, your actions, and eventually you may realize how important your actions and attitude are to you and your loved ones. I am willing to bet that your perspective now is a more accurate reality then a couple of weeks ago.
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ssoac
Guest
Tclay said:
That sir, is beautifully said.
On day 16, busy working, trying to get back on schedule tasks that I've undertaken, but neglected due to my PMO obsessions.
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ssoac
Guest
Tclay said:
Roger that.
On day 18. Flat as a tyre, limp as a bizkit.
moving forward.
savingmysoul
Active Member
you are doing fine.
I too share your issue, 20 weeks no P or M, but still working through the ED stuff.
Stay strong, better days are on the way.
We all have strength, embrace it.
I too share your issue, 20 weeks no P or M, but still working through the ED stuff.
Stay strong, better days are on the way.
We all have strength, embrace it.
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ssoac
Guest
Thanks for the support guys.
When I started I wasn't even aware of the ED issue... and while it is a major deal for me, it is not a deal breaker.
My primary objective is to become stronger than the addiction, and I will.
I do sincerely hope that the ED will get better as LTE says, but even if it doesn't ... well, to hell with it.
I ain't going back to that mindless state of hunting for porn in every spare moment, looking for satisfaction that was never there.
When I started I wasn't even aware of the ED issue... and while it is a major deal for me, it is not a deal breaker.
My primary objective is to become stronger than the addiction, and I will.
I do sincerely hope that the ED will get better as LTE says, but even if it doesn't ... well, to hell with it.
I ain't going back to that mindless state of hunting for porn in every spare moment, looking for satisfaction that was never there.
Wanttobebetter
Member
You got it ssoac, well done! Please realize, your journal is helping us too.
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ssoac
Guest
Wanttobebetter said:
To be entirely honest, at the moment I'm only keeping this journal for myself.. to keep me accountable in some way.
But if it can also help others - that's awesome.
I'm also refraining from posting in other journals for the time being.. i feel i need to get a foothold first, still extremely new to this.
my best to everyone
moving forward
Wanttobebetter
Member
ssoac...the release of your thoughts is a process. It is important that you think them, process them and release them in your journal. It's a necessary process and it is healing. I have believed that for many years and have seen it work for many years.
But when others hear what you're saying it helps them in stirring their own thoughts, enabling them to think, process and release things from deep in their minds and emotions.
And the process goes around and around from you to others to others to somebody else and around and back to you.
Engage at your own pace. That is how we each need to deal with the process.
Remember this, all of us on here are in our own fights. But the enemies are common to us all. We are here for ourselves and each other.
For you to realize that it is awesome that you can also help others...that my friend is awesome!
But when others hear what you're saying it helps them in stirring their own thoughts, enabling them to think, process and release things from deep in their minds and emotions.
And the process goes around and around from you to others to others to somebody else and around and back to you.
Engage at your own pace. That is how we each need to deal with the process.
Remember this, all of us on here are in our own fights. But the enemies are common to us all. We are here for ourselves and each other.
For you to realize that it is awesome that you can also help others...that my friend is awesome!
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ssoac
Guest
Wanttobebetter said:
I hear you friend.
On day 20, moving forward
savingmysoul
Active Member
Keep hanging in there.
This is a good fight if there ever was one.
It can be done - it is going to be a struggle, but it can be done.
Embrace your strength
SMS
This is a good fight if there ever was one.
It can be done - it is going to be a struggle, but it can be done.
Embrace your strength
SMS
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ssoac
Guest
savingmysoul said:
Thank you SMS
Been catching myself gazing at women the last couple of days... so.. there also that.
Got some great pointers in the 'Objectifying women' thread.
Got me thinking about where's all this coming from... cause its definitely me that wants to stop this behavior, but it also me who wants the porn, the ogling...
Brain science says human brain is composed of three parts - reptilian, mammalian and neo-cortex.
The reptilian being responsible for survival, mammalian for emotions and the neo-cortex - higher thinking, logic, etc.
So is this my lizard brain that yearns the porn and leering so much, or is it my "higher" human brain?
I know its not the emotional brain, cause that gave me the booze addiction back when I was young and felt hart broken..
So.. who is "I" ?
The "I" typing this at the moment? Or the "I" checking out the women outside? The "I" determined to stop all this and change?
The "I" years ago boozing up regularly?
"me" has no idea
Me thinks, that "I" am like a ship, run by a crew of monkeys. Screaming, fighting, running amok. Every now and then a stronger monkey emerges, beats the sh*t out of the others, and takes control. And for some time all the other monkeys obey the new captain.
I'm confident that I can make my new "Thou shalt not watch porn, ogle women and masturbate" monkey the strongest.
Its not easy, takes time and dedication. To steal some Churchill - 'blood, toil, tears and sweat'.
But its doable, I've done it with some of my other monkeys.
I'm beginning to believe its not the best solution though.. cause there's always another monkey around the corner.. silently gathering strength, till one day it sucker-punches your hard trained captain monkey and takes over. And then its back to the drawing board all over again...
So I think I'm gonna go another way, and it scares me. But at the moment this feels right.
I'll stop trying to whip my monkeys into shape. I will not command and conquer.
I will release control. I want my monkeys to evolve.
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ssoac
Guest
^^ Boy, give a monkey a typewriter
A near slip yesterday, and another this morning.
3 weeks.
Cruising along
A near slip yesterday, and another this morning.
3 weeks.
Cruising along
savingmysoul
Active Member
battling through a potential slip can and should be a feather in your cap. One of those monkeys has stood up and kept you safe.
Stay strong,
Stay strong,