Wanttobebetter
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First let me thank the women who have joined this conversation. I think I speak for many guys when I say we do not have a clue what is going on with looking at women. Honestly, I have always been really confused about the cleavage thing. Breasts are sensual in the whole female/male thing, yet what's a man to do when he sees a wonderful cleavage intentionally on display. That always had me muttering to myself, "Well damn, what am I supposed to do?" So I am talking to a woman in a totally business setting. We are standing face to face three feet apart. That morning she chose to wear a blouse which reveals a lot of cleavage. How do I stare her in the eye while we talk and not occasionally look down? Then, as Viper said there are those amazingly tight stretch jeans that accentuate the butt! A woman walks by or is standing in front of me at the post office in a pair of those remarkable garments and I have to go into a mind warp not to leer at the masterpiece. What the heck?
So anyhow, I was an objectifier. I say was because I'm making real progress with getting a perspective to handle that one. I had it bad for decades and thought I was alone and crazy. That is getting better now simply by recognizing it. Thanks too to Gracie for her Porn Doc post this morning.
But I echo the other gents in this conversation when I ask, if a guy is looking for normal or acceptable behavior, what do women think that is? I'm sincere about that question. If a woman goes out for the day or to work and is dressed nicely she expects men to treat her nicely and respectfully.
And except for the leering morons like I was (yes...was!) most men will treat her that way.
Then there is an ever increasing percentage of women who leave home dressed as sensually and sexually as they can. I know that is a societal thing and I do not criticize them individually here.
One analogy if I might, if a guy with a really great dick were to go out in a pair of jeans that sculpted him in a "look at this!" way, would he not be considered to be showing off or attracting attention? Would women divert their eyes?
So women, your help and advice and input here is really valuable! The guys here are listening.
Thanks to all taking part!!!
So anyhow, I was an objectifier. I say was because I'm making real progress with getting a perspective to handle that one. I had it bad for decades and thought I was alone and crazy. That is getting better now simply by recognizing it. Thanks too to Gracie for her Porn Doc post this morning.
But I echo the other gents in this conversation when I ask, if a guy is looking for normal or acceptable behavior, what do women think that is? I'm sincere about that question. If a woman goes out for the day or to work and is dressed nicely she expects men to treat her nicely and respectfully.
And except for the leering morons like I was (yes...was!) most men will treat her that way.
Then there is an ever increasing percentage of women who leave home dressed as sensually and sexually as they can. I know that is a societal thing and I do not criticize them individually here.
One analogy if I might, if a guy with a really great dick were to go out in a pair of jeans that sculpted him in a "look at this!" way, would he not be considered to be showing off or attracting attention? Would women divert their eyes?
So women, your help and advice and input here is really valuable! The guys here are listening.
Thanks to all taking part!!!