sunborn
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Dareius, always nice to see you. I'm glad to hear what I wrote could give you some insight. Keep on exploring that in yourself. It's good to ask ourselves about our beliefs - why are thoughts about being perverted in me right now? Am I perverted? When/where did I learn to think like this? Do I still need to think like this? How do these thoughts serve me? Do they fulfill some higher purpose? do I believe something else is possible? Am I allowed to let them go? What would happen if I let them go?
As you might notice, these kinds of open leading questions can lead to a lot of insight. It's a nice exercise.
Attraction is beautifully complex. I'm not even sure if our psychology fully understands it. There is much to understand and discover about ourselves there, and I think what we are attracted to is life's way of letting us know where we have the possibility of highest development.
You ask me about how to be present with the experience of shame while being in the middle of society. Do you mean, for example while being on a bus or on the train or on the street? The thing is - it is rarely appropriate or safe to express the depths of our experiences in the open. I think the best thing to do is to become aware of what's happening, and depending on the situation either direct the energy out through you or find a way to deal with it later when it's safe if that's not possible. Is there anything specific you want to learn to handle?
Thanks for the tips about training. I am already starting to feel better after hitting the gym. I have more energy and mental clarity.
So how do I feel now? pretty good. Day 3 since I relapsed. So far no urges. I need to be aware of my mind and the bullshit I tell myself. Especially when my mind starts coercing me into just taking a liiiiiitle sneak-peak. "Just a liiiitle bit won't hurt right? Let's just google her name, we're not even going to look at any pictures or videos. Just google her name to see what comes up you know?". That kind of bullshit. I know how easy it is to go from "no urges" to full-on PMO. Meditation helps a lot with this.
Some positive changes. I am starting to plan for things to do that I enjoy. Going out dancing this weekend. Saving up some money for new clothes I want to buy. Also checking out a new gym. When I put my energy into these kinds of things I feel good you know. It feels like I am directing the flow of my life.
As you might notice, these kinds of open leading questions can lead to a lot of insight. It's a nice exercise.
Attraction is beautifully complex. I'm not even sure if our psychology fully understands it. There is much to understand and discover about ourselves there, and I think what we are attracted to is life's way of letting us know where we have the possibility of highest development.
You ask me about how to be present with the experience of shame while being in the middle of society. Do you mean, for example while being on a bus or on the train or on the street? The thing is - it is rarely appropriate or safe to express the depths of our experiences in the open. I think the best thing to do is to become aware of what's happening, and depending on the situation either direct the energy out through you or find a way to deal with it later when it's safe if that's not possible. Is there anything specific you want to learn to handle?
Thanks for the tips about training. I am already starting to feel better after hitting the gym. I have more energy and mental clarity.
So how do I feel now? pretty good. Day 3 since I relapsed. So far no urges. I need to be aware of my mind and the bullshit I tell myself. Especially when my mind starts coercing me into just taking a liiiiiitle sneak-peak. "Just a liiiitle bit won't hurt right? Let's just google her name, we're not even going to look at any pictures or videos. Just google her name to see what comes up you know?". That kind of bullshit. I know how easy it is to go from "no urges" to full-on PMO. Meditation helps a lot with this.
Some positive changes. I am starting to plan for things to do that I enjoy. Going out dancing this weekend. Saving up some money for new clothes I want to buy. Also checking out a new gym. When I put my energy into these kinds of things I feel good you know. It feels like I am directing the flow of my life.
Hope you have a great day!!