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bzarfas said:Viper said:Doesn't matter if you haven't physically touched her or not.
If you feel the need to hide the fact that you're spending all this time with another woman,
then you already have your answer.
exactly
would you hide your time spent with a male friend?
I went to lunch with a friend,I was only in town for a few nights and I posted on FB that I was seeing her at *place* for foodD
During our time together, she asked me to take off the post, she didnt wan her SO to see it.
I didnt care about her mentally, just her body. so is that the same thing or different
LOL of course its the same thing, but it wasnt me cheating, it was her.
So why are you cheating on your wife? if she had a YM to hang out with ,as you have your YW, would you be ok with that?
It is interesting that your story assigns cheating to the lady, with no such label for yourself when your motivations were clearly for "just her body".
It is funny when one considers that old-school, Old Testament Adultery is defined by the woman's marital state, not a man's. New Testament adultery is more about intent, the mind and affairs of the heart: ?You have heard that it was said to those of old, ?You shall not commit adultery.? But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery already with her in his heart.? Matthew 5:27-28
This isn't a Bible lesson and I hardly qualify as a Sunday School marm. But the evolution of the definition of cheating is right there in Scripture and in the way we try to walk around it to paint ourselves in the best light possible.
If you knew she was in a committed relationship before making the dinner date, motivated by "just her body" you are a cheater-cheater pumpkin eater. It is a huge ego boost to think that this woman risked her relationship to be with you, but in the end it is a ego deflation because she obviously wasn't very proud of it.
EDIT: I read some of your posts and see a lot of body data - BMI, weight, et al. Do you think your medical school training and accident have had an impact on how you see others and yourself?