PeaceOfMind062012
Active Member
Hey Everybody!
It's been 125 days since I last PMO-ed! I'm still on the path of recovery, and I'm very thankful for that. I can't say that I'm fully recovered however, and I feel that it will be years and years before I can say that. Or maybe I'll never be able to say that I'm fully recovered, and that I'll be a P addict for life, and that it's just something I'll have to manage forever. Just like and alcoholic not being able to ever have a drink again - I'll just never be able to look at P again without falling into a full blown relapse. That's actually ok with me; I'm fine with not watching the stuff forever.
But on that note, I find that my mind is C-R-A-V-I-N-G it these days!!! It's insane!! I find it usually happens more around bedtime, when I'm already exhausted, and I'm feeling a bit cranky, and I'm a bit more likely to make un-wise decisions, and then my mind will start to wander and wander back into memories of P!! It's insane! It's almost like P is an old girlfriend that I used to be with who is insanely hot, and who I WANT to get back together with, even though she was really emotionally un-healthy and was really bad for me in the long run (actually I think I used that exact analogy in a post from a few months ago, but it's a very apt analogy!) I find the comparison to be very accurate for how my brain views and wants and craves P. It's like I'll remember P scenes that I really "fell in love with" (for lack of a better phrase), and actresses that I basically also, fell in love with, and my brain then remembers them, and wants to see them again. That is basically what is happening in my brain these days. I find that that is one of the hardest aspects of P to quit - that fact that our memories are so strong, and that we can basically still be stimulated by P scenes that we can remember at any time. It's like you gotta be in control of your thoughts to avoid this torturous trap (to be tormented by your thoughts).
I feel that I'm kind of experiencing a flatline these days - or a version of it. As I said in previous posts, I've been M-ing to help me get to sleep cuz I value my sleep greatly, but that has kind of kept me in the thrall of M and sex addiction to some degree, because even though I haven't been watching P, my mind still goes to similar places that I used to go to with P, and it still kind of feels like a drug that I'm needing and that then becomes a routine, and that I'm actually not totally enjoying - I'm just doing it in order to get to sleep. So I'm going to try and not M as much, to try and save some of that precious energy and put it towards other constructive things in my life.
I hope everyone is doing well!!
All the best!!
-Peace
It's been 125 days since I last PMO-ed! I'm still on the path of recovery, and I'm very thankful for that. I can't say that I'm fully recovered however, and I feel that it will be years and years before I can say that. Or maybe I'll never be able to say that I'm fully recovered, and that I'll be a P addict for life, and that it's just something I'll have to manage forever. Just like and alcoholic not being able to ever have a drink again - I'll just never be able to look at P again without falling into a full blown relapse. That's actually ok with me; I'm fine with not watching the stuff forever.
But on that note, I find that my mind is C-R-A-V-I-N-G it these days!!! It's insane!! I find it usually happens more around bedtime, when I'm already exhausted, and I'm feeling a bit cranky, and I'm a bit more likely to make un-wise decisions, and then my mind will start to wander and wander back into memories of P!! It's insane! It's almost like P is an old girlfriend that I used to be with who is insanely hot, and who I WANT to get back together with, even though she was really emotionally un-healthy and was really bad for me in the long run (actually I think I used that exact analogy in a post from a few months ago, but it's a very apt analogy!) I find the comparison to be very accurate for how my brain views and wants and craves P. It's like I'll remember P scenes that I really "fell in love with" (for lack of a better phrase), and actresses that I basically also, fell in love with, and my brain then remembers them, and wants to see them again. That is basically what is happening in my brain these days. I find that that is one of the hardest aspects of P to quit - that fact that our memories are so strong, and that we can basically still be stimulated by P scenes that we can remember at any time. It's like you gotta be in control of your thoughts to avoid this torturous trap (to be tormented by your thoughts).
I feel that I'm kind of experiencing a flatline these days - or a version of it. As I said in previous posts, I've been M-ing to help me get to sleep cuz I value my sleep greatly, but that has kind of kept me in the thrall of M and sex addiction to some degree, because even though I haven't been watching P, my mind still goes to similar places that I used to go to with P, and it still kind of feels like a drug that I'm needing and that then becomes a routine, and that I'm actually not totally enjoying - I'm just doing it in order to get to sleep. So I'm going to try and not M as much, to try and save some of that precious energy and put it towards other constructive things in my life.
I hope everyone is doing well!!
All the best!!
-Peace