guitar1968
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Today is 60 days without P, PMO, or MO.
A great streak Phineas! Keep it up and thanks again for your comments on my feed! Always appreciated!
Today is 60 days without P, PMO, or MO.
You are the man Phineas, congratulations on 2 months porn free, keep going my man onwards.Today is 60 days without P, PMO, or MO. This is about 2 months without those behaviors and the halfway point toward 120 days, which isn't necessarily a goal, but is significant to me in this journal and its reflecting efforts.
I did need to get on TikTok for business purposes yesterday, and this on the pc- and it was very interesting the 'tailor-made' cues that came up in my feed. Perfect! I did check my pulse, and yes, I was cued... But, I just breathed through this, and kept focused on my work. I didn't allow this to derail me, sidetrack or distract me from my purpose. Neither did I obsess afterward.
I'm doing good. There's no p-subs or edging. Made love with the wife, and to be honest- I was tired, wanted to sleep, and was at 0 libido. But my wife wanted to, and Ol' Willy came out to play. All worked well, and was able to perform even from that starting point.
Excited to be working on some new ventures (utilizing TikTok) and my existing website. Awareness, mindfulness, and building on that future self- a man in control of himself.
Way to smirk in the face of temptation. Great work my man!
That sounds like real growth, Zaraki! That's more or less the approach I want, too. I had a really 'bad' month last March, and I don't want to lapse that often- and so had to dig a little deeper. But overall, I'm on a good trajectory since November of 2020- and even years earlier, however last year ended or this year began.
I'm of the view that a lapse (while neither encouraging nor condoning) is no big deal, insofar as we're viewing ourselves holistically, in terms of healing, and are working getting past our traumas or brokenness.
To those only needing to stop a bad habit, or even end a 'surface addiction' if you will, this won't make sense. To those who are driven by a 'black-and-white' thinking or an 'all-or-nothing' approach, this won't make sense.
Buf if I may quote Amy Johnson, PhD, from her "10 Big Ideas About Ending Habits"- she says,
8. The truth about setbacks
Setbacks feel like a big deal. But they aren’t.
Peek up at Big Idea #7 [which says, "It may take practice- ending our habit"], and consider the fact that your brain is very used to your habit or addiction. There will most likely be setbacks. They are meaningless in and of themselves. Yes, meaningless. The only way a setback can hurt you or actually set you back, is if you decide it is meaningful and you use it as an excuse to spiral downward.
When you see that setbacks are simply part of the process, you’re not set back at all.
~ Amy Johnson
I like and agree with your assessment on mindfulness above, too. That's how I view it, thoughts or no thoughts, mindfulness just is.
Be blessed!
Consistency, repetition of the good habits of reading, not using the phone at certain times, not using social media
Great job maintaining positive momentum "Gandalf"!I feel I could've lapsed to MO, but I used self-talk, "I do not need to do this!" and again, "I do not give myself permission to do this." And, I stopped.
Interesting what you write here. I've been thinking of something like this but haven't been able to put words to it. My wife and I watch tv and movies together. We don't do much else. However, whenever there are sex scenes, or pre-sex scenes, I find myself feeling like I don't even remember how to feel hot for someone, or how to get excited just by the touch or kiss of a partner. Asexual I guess is one way to put it. But, it's definitely about it not being on screen - porn screen that is, not a very PG rated sex scene on a tv show.I think it's mostly me that we don't make love more often- like sometimes I feel asexual, meaning that I'm just not into it... That may be all my fault as I've been so used to being 'turned on' by a computer screen rather than real life. But, healing from this as well...