First_step_thousand_miles
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Thank you my friend! Means a lot, I'll make it through. I remind myself this is peanuts compared to the initial days of the rebootKeep up the good work bro, drop me a message if you're struggling
Thank you my friend! Means a lot, I'll make it through. I remind myself this is peanuts compared to the initial days of the rebootKeep up the good work bro, drop me a message if you're struggling
Thanks so much man, your support means the world. I think I'll be ok but will certainly drop you a line if needed, much love brother!Yes brother, if you need anything, let us know, please!
You got this.
Message me if you need.
Hang in there man, it's never worth it, not that you don't know that.Temptations are becoming stronger (partially because of no MO and partially because of the crappy situation I'm feeling like I'm in right now).
It's good to know your limits and what you like or don't like. Sleep is very important for this journey.Other thing I've learned is that while I like traveling there is a limit. I've hit a point where I'm no longer looking forward to trips to see even good friends. It's just bringing worries / anxieties like what will I tell my boss, how will this mess up my sleep schedule when I cross time zones, and how it's setting back progress on my fitness goals -- which are CRITICAL to my goals of quitting porn.
Truth, it's good to know your priorities.I want to look good and feel good to get out there with girls. That's the #1 factor tying to quitting porn, otherwise those temptations will always be there to some extent
I've struggled with this one myself but ask yourself this - If I go and see my friends for a few days how many workouts am I going to miss? It's not many. Alternatively, ask yourself, what mental health benefits am I going to gain from seeing my friends? As porn addicts, socialising is CRUCIAL to our recovery. It's worth missing a small amount of workouts, get out there and have fun with the homies! Plus, you can still eat well and stick to your calories while seeing friends so weight loss progress will still be achieved!how it's setting back progress on my fitness goals -- which are CRITICAL to my goals of quitting porn. I want to look good and feel good to get out there with girls. That's the #1 factor tying to quitting porn, otherwise those temptations will always be there to some extent
So much yes! Love you manNot complaining here, actually as much as I feel sleep deprived and upset about stuff right now I'm also glad because it's another thing I've learned about myself on what I want / what I don't want. You learn when you push up against stressors, not when you stick to your comfort zone. So there's always a silver lining. I now know not all my goals are built equally -- some are crucial to achieve while others are more nice to have / can be pushed out to later if need be. Onwards fellas, let's keep learning about ourselves on this journey
Thank you my man and apologies for the late reply. Been a lot of jet lag so I've been catching up on sleep. Yeah you're right, life has the good with the bad. Sometimes it's hard but you gotta power through. Love you man!Hey @First_step_thousand_miles,
Hang in there man, it's never worth it, not that you don't know that.
Sorry you to hear you're going through a rough patch right now, but that's life, and there's a beauty to that fact when you stop to think about it. Having "problems " are moments life gives us to actually grow and learn. When we've turned to porn in our past, we lost all of those chances for real improvement, only gaining a few hours of so called pleasure, and then having to return to it again and again because we never trained ourselves to actually be an adult and handle stress and reality. I'm kind of going through a moment myself, where I wouldn't say I've been completely tempted, but I have thought about it; however, I know it leads to nowhere, and God I hate that place!
It's good to know your limits and what you like or don't like. Sleep is very important for this journey.
Truth, it's good to know your priorities.
You got this brother.
Agreed man. It's not so clear cut on just doing 1 thing, well-being is holistic. I don't know about our ancestors (though I'm convinced they were happier than we are on avg) but in the modern world you really need to live deliberately in order to achieve a contented life. Onwards sir!The urge to "feel better" is healthy. What's not healthy is to choose a short term means to that end that makes your state of mind worse overall. Can you come up with an exercise routine you can do when you can't get to the gym? Can you plan to take walks...and make eye contact and smile at people you pass? Or? How can you feel good without a screen or an addictive substance? Our ancestors managed.
10000%. I used to make the mistake of sacrificing hanging out with friends to work out when I was younger. I've since had many wake up calls that's NOT the answer. I make time for both now, but push comes to shove I prioritize the people in my life. They're what make it worth living at allI've struggled with this one myself but ask yourself this - If I go and see my friends for a few days how many workouts am I going to miss? It's not many. Alternatively, ask yourself, what mental health benefits am I going to gain from seeing my friends? As porn addicts, socialising is CRUCIAL to our recovery. It's worth missing a small amount of workouts, get out there and have fun with the homies! Plus, you can still eat well and stick to your calories while seeing friends so weight loss progress will still be achieved!
So much yes! Love you man
Definitely not!Maybe this is nonsense and it's certainly random but can't help the way I feel
Thank you my man, it's pretty comforting. I think all of us look back at our youth and feel fondly so there's certainly some of that. But I even watch documentaries of the early days of the internet (check out e-Dreams) and feel that sense of reassurance. Not everything was perfect then by any means but people just felt more human I guess. Anyway, it's good motivation to returning to our roots as men!Hey @First_step_thousand_miles, I just wanted to say I really liked your post a few back about the "good ol days" on the internet before it completely did one on us. Yes, those days before highspeed internet seem so long ago, and yes, much more innocent. I've never thought about the UI of this place but you're right, it is kind of old school in a good way.
Definitely not!
Keep killing it brother.