rider654321
Active Member
Wow SORP,
I have just read all nine pages of your journal. You have certainly demonstrated an amazing level of insightfulness, loyalty, commitment, patience and tenacity as you have dealt with the issues that have manifested from your husband's addiction.
Your last few posts have a distinctly different feel (tone) to them and while I appaud you for establishing new stronger boundaries for your husband and yourself, and your feeling more like yourself, I nevertheless felt saddened (for you) to read that things remain "cold in the bedroom" given all that you have been through, and the sheer amount of support and patience you have given your hubby. He is indeed a lucky man to have you stand by him this long.
Reading between the lines of your response to Ite's enquiry about "has there been any recent relapses from your hubby" creates a bit of confusion over whether he did relapsed or not, and I sincerely hope given the commitment you have put into rebuilding your trust in him that the answer would be a definate, no.
He should indeed be respecting the sacrifies you have made and should be doing everything within his power to honour your relationship, trust and support.
If there have been further relapse/s after all the effort you have put into to rebuilding your relationship, then the problem rests squarely with him and his choices. If that is the case, then I would encourage you to consider what is ultimately right for you and you alone and pursue that path. That would not be selfish under your circumstances.
Reading your journal has been insightful on so many levels.
I have just read all nine pages of your journal. You have certainly demonstrated an amazing level of insightfulness, loyalty, commitment, patience and tenacity as you have dealt with the issues that have manifested from your husband's addiction.
Your last few posts have a distinctly different feel (tone) to them and while I appaud you for establishing new stronger boundaries for your husband and yourself, and your feeling more like yourself, I nevertheless felt saddened (for you) to read that things remain "cold in the bedroom" given all that you have been through, and the sheer amount of support and patience you have given your hubby. He is indeed a lucky man to have you stand by him this long.
Reading between the lines of your response to Ite's enquiry about "has there been any recent relapses from your hubby" creates a bit of confusion over whether he did relapsed or not, and I sincerely hope given the commitment you have put into rebuilding your trust in him that the answer would be a definate, no.
He should indeed be respecting the sacrifies you have made and should be doing everything within his power to honour your relationship, trust and support.
If there have been further relapse/s after all the effort you have put into to rebuilding your relationship, then the problem rests squarely with him and his choices. If that is the case, then I would encourage you to consider what is ultimately right for you and you alone and pursue that path. That would not be selfish under your circumstances.
Reading your journal has been insightful on so many levels.