Hey all - it's been a while...
If truth be told, I'm a little derailed at the moment, but porn is only a small part of the derailment... Cut a long story short, I have been on anti-depressants since 2015 and have recently decided to stop taking them. I want to know if I can control my mood, behaviour and thoughts in a more sustainable way - think keeping busy, socialising, positive hobbies, mindfulness, healthy activities. I really think I can do it.
But maybe some of you also know, coming off AD's can have withdrawal symptoms, even when you do it following medical advice, you taper and take it slowly. Especially after having taken them for a long time. I'm working through this at the moment. Not helped by the fact that my wife is going through a tough time mentally too. You would think that we would turn to each other and offer each other mutual support, but if anything the opposite is true. But hardly surprising - mental health issues are absolutely engulfed in a feeling of being completely alone, even when you are surrounded by good people. We all live inside that pre-occupied ruminating cell which acts as a massive barrier with those around us.
We are going on holiday in two weeks, so at the moment I'm thinking short term - just get through work and try and do my share around the house, so she doesn't resent me and feel like just 'a house keeper' and servant for me and my son. Hopefully the holiday will bring some fun and relaxation then we can look forward more positively.
Porn - yes there have been some minor relapses, but it just isn't figuring very highly in the list of things to be dealt with. However this is a statement of intent - I am still committed long-term to eliminating it from my life. Despite recent setbacks, I still think I have hugely moved on from where I was when I started this journey.
And for the record, my mental health issues are not severe on the grand scale of things. I will not do anything stupid. I have so much good stuff going on!
Keep fighting everyone and all the best. I will be back once the AD withdrawal has settled down - I know it is temporary - just as I know now the mental health issues associated with PMO recovery are temporary too.