switched_off_again said:
Thanks for the support jixu.
So far so good on my week at home. Mainly because the DIY I'm doing has engaged me both mentally and physically so what's going on down below is the last thing on my mind!
Having said that I'm not in the best of moods this evening, mainly I think because I'm knackered after all the physical exertion today. There was coverage in the news of UK plans to introduce age verification for P sites - this was slightly triggering mainly because it reminded me of just how mainstream and pervasive P is. Why do I have to abstain when the rest of the world indulges? Yes, I know the answer, just tired and moody...
The other thing bothering me during this moody evening is my relationship with my wife. In the early days of the reboot process last year, I channeled all my excess libido in to our physical relationship. I thought we could re-kindle a physical relationship with a bit of spice. Now that I'm well over 6 months in to the reboot process I'm sort of resigned to the fact that that is not happening. We've been together so long. There really isn't anything other than the occasional very ad-hoc coupling to be had. Forget any thought of dressing up or pre-sex courtship - it's put down the book, strip off pyjamas and t-shirt for a quick 10 minute act if we're lucky. And there-in lies the dilemma... I don't want to do P but there isn't much of an alternative sex life to be had... Oh well.
Sorry for moodiness. On positive side, despite feeling low this evening, I've stayed away from P.
Stay strong. Promise to be more positive next time I visit!
I appreciate this honest assessment. When you say, "I don't want to P but there isn't much of an alternative sex life to be had..." I need to say, "Amen, Brother!!!"
I find myself in a sex-starved relationship with my wife of 28 years. I enjoy almost everything about her, but the sex is inadequate. I won't bother to quantify. Lack of healthy sex does not excuse PMO, but many of here understand the predicament. Every time my wife and I are intimate, it is immediately followed by feelings of joy and fulfillment. Every time I PMO, it is immediately followed by feelings of shame and regret.
So, after 6 moths of pursuing a more involved and meaningful sexual relationship with your wife, with little if any change, where does that leave you? Where does that leave me? And where does that leave the rest of us who closely identify with your frustration? (from Proverbs: People do not despise a thief if he steals to satisfy his hunger when he is starving.) I don't want to be a thief, but sooner or later a man must eat.
Is there another option?
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