Thanks KittyHawk, for the advice.
Over analyzing is something that we used to do, On the other hand i dont want to under analyze things as well. My wife does has a point and I will have to adress it. It definately has something to do with rebooting, but I think it would be lazy and careless of me to fully write it off to my addiction. I have to approach this from other angles as well because I feel that the addiction enhanced / warped other parts of my personality. So with the addiction slowly subsiding, these traits might still be there, so to be sure i want to adress them.
@UKGuy, Thanks for checking up on me!
It has been a couple of days indeed, I've been back to work and been focused on that and yesterday the forum was down again
.The company i work at is not doing to well at the moment and theres talks of 20% cutbacks... Even though we are financially more than stable, it still is kind of a stressor.
I'm not doing to great at the moment, but it's all in my head. My day was pretty shitty up to an hour ago. Grumpy and unhappy with everything in a way a teenager can be. But i know it's in my head. There is something inside of me that makes me feel unsatisfied for no reason and i have to unearth whatever that is. But the stresses of salary cuts, our cat dying and worrying about my wife's health (she's fine, no worries) has taken its toll i guess
Fortunately, however disgruntled i was acting, i did not feel like that towards my wife. I knew that the feeling came from a problem inside and was actually proned to seek her comfort and affection. This is a huge U-turn from how i approached these feelings before. Back in the day i would let feelings like that take over my entire mental state and day and nothing would be free from my self inflicted emotional wrath. So, I am happy that i recognized the origin of the feelings and seek out the comfort of my wife. This shows me that the past 5 months of rebooting and working on myself have payed off a lot. And the moment i recognized that progress, my mood was gone.
I've also been thinking about how to raise kids and the wife and I talked about this during our walk. The thoughts were triggered by a short series of posts in Joepanic's thread, on the effect of P on children and how to approach this.
In hindsight this was actually a pretty good day because it has taught me a lot of things, the main things being;
a; i am very much capable of recognizing a bad mood and act accordingly
b; i have grown tremendously in dealing with bad moods
Urge wise I'm doing okay, this is day 18 so that is also going well. The moment I am typing the 18 days i recognize that around day 13-20 i usually have a hard time emotion wise after a relapse. So its very likely that there was a P induced influence as well. The last few days i have had a lot of urge to search for soft triggers so to speak.. A little voice that says its ok to look up that actress. Stuff like that. This is also an indication that something is up.
It is time for some self help and personal growth! I feel like a good cry tonight.
Anyway, that's it for now, I'm off to the other threads to read up since I've not been here a couple of days. I'm wondering how all of you are doing!
Post edit: Reading tip; If im feeling down I always love reading Haemin Sunim. Theres a book called Things you can only see if you slow down, how to be calm in a busy world. Reading this book is like being covered with a big blanket of unconditional love