Of course. You don't need to stop once you have the momentum.Thank you for reply @Escapeandnevercomeback. A few weeks ago I would of wished to have 20 days porn free, and if I can do anyone can, trust me![]()
I did this too, and while it's not PORN, the same motives are there, and you're way too close to ground zero to be able to act accordingly. I had to, and I think most have had to, just to cut all of this out, because it doesn't help us at at the end of the day. Obviously, if you look at p subs, don't think you've relapsed, however, it should be a sign that you need to be very careful. You can always incorporated "some" of it back later on down the road, but in general, there's just no reason to be doing that anyway.he problem I find is that my brain doesn't recognise whether I'm watching a sexy tv presenter or a porn scene. I have tuned into a show I like just to see if this particular women is wearing anything sexy (I follow her on social media too, y'know for the holiday bikini photos) I can now see that my brain still gets that little hit and that really what I'm after.
...it's funny tho, the thing I thought that i wanted more than anything in the world wasn't what i thought it was.
That's right. Garry Wilson said the same thing: We seek more than we need. You think the porn session is going to be mind-blowing and then it's over and you say: That's it? I wish I didn't start it in the first place. Happens to me a lot. The pleasure becomes a distant memory very fast.It (almost) never lives up to its hype! It's typically never what we excpect it to be when we first come on...
Good job on pulling out and seeing it for the emptiness that it is...
(sorry for the 'like-bombardment', just catching up)
@TakeActionNow I'm really learning things again and for the first time but atm it's all goodCongrats on the relationship!
The only advice I can give anymone really is that you have to keep busy, always.
I agree with this. You need to get to a point where it comes from inside. All other things are external tools. When you can't have them, for whatever reason, then what? But, I guess, until you can get to that point, you need to use whatever helps.This is good advice, brother. But the time will come (and you're training for it now) when one doesn't have to stay busy, that they can be so okay with themselves (as you said above) that they can literally be doing nothing, or resting, and because they're okay with themselves, no need to obsess or fixate arises, no need to self-medicate.
You're doing great, brother!
It is true. Some of us have been using our addiction to numb stuff like that. When you don't have this "tool", this "anti-depressant" at your disposal, they come back and their blow might seem even harder because of the fact that we haven't really built callouses for them. I know I've been using alcohol and porn to escape my trauma. Every time I try to go longer without medication, it comes back to me to remind me I need a break from myself. The suffering experienced because of lack of medication may suck big time but it actually gives us the opportunity to address it and fix it. Numbing it with addictive substances or behaviors won't lead to anything good.I'll be honest here, once I tore back the porn addiction I found that I do indeed have depression, however its worse than I thoughthave I been medicating with porn, 100%
Now with no porn, I can feel the stress, the panic and despair. There's an uncomfortable feeling of doom at times, and it's tough.
Maybe I'm just tired, but I know that it's not supposed to be this way.
I'm right there with ya.....I'll be honest here, once I tore back the porn addiction I found that I do indeed have depression, however its worse than I thoughthave I been medicating with porn, 100%
Now with no porn, I can feel the stress, the panic and despair. There's an uncomfortable feeling of doom at times, and it's tough.
Maybe I'm just tired, but I know that it's not supposed to be this way.