Day 5 - No PMO/HS/M/O, not sleeping properly, upset at past stuff, exercised and had cold shower today.
Thanks CrazyGopher, it was indeed a great victory. I am much more aware now that my brain will try and trick me into PMO/HS for that dopamine high. I was thinking today, how have I relapsed in the past? What tricks has my subconscious played on me, in order to get back to HS/PMO? If I can answer this question, I can better manage my mind and will be prepared to stop relapse.
So the beat goes a little something like this:
> Watch PMO/HS for hours. Try to find the one video/person that will do it for me (can't even find that anymore)
> Eventually ejaculate, the dopamine dries up, my overwhelmed by dopamine rational mind reasserts control.
> Feel severe pain of PMO/HS: wasted time, guilt, shame, self anger, anxiety, loss of control (the great dopamine crash)
> Begin reboot with strong conviction
> Reboot underway, subconscious, enacting its survival mechanism to get more dopamine, starts to play tricks to get back to PMO/HS:
1) Very early on, I feel angry and snap at people. The porn dopamine is being missed and the subconscious is working hard to figure out some way to get porn dopamine back. If it can maintain the emotional upheaval through anger, self destruction, sadness, loss of purpose then very quickly I'll PMO/HS.
2) Misalignment of emotion and purpose and its a nasty subconscious trick. I get complacent during reboot and I continue to go through the motion of rebooting while slowly my conviction changes (subconscious at work to get porn dopamine). While still going through the motion of reboot, deep down my subconscious begins removing negative emotion\pain associated with PMO/HS. I continue to reboot on auto pilot, while emotionally my subconscious convinces me to flaunt my previous no PMO/HS convictions; when there is no guilt/shame/bad feelings from flaunting my no PMO/HS reboot convictions, my subconscious has provided evidence that those previous feelings of guilt/shame/waste of time from PMO/HS no longer apply and its now ok to PMO/HS. THE TRICK IS COMPLETE, its just a matter of time before PMO/HS. VERY TRICKY indeed! Indicators include: flat line, loss of emotion during reboot, going through the motion of reboot without paying attention or in a bored way, considering/beginning to look at arousing things, loss of conviction.
How to correct this subconscious trick? I ask myself, how do I feel about PMO/HS? How do I feel about spending hours watching porn? I ask myself, describe the last time I ejaculated when I PMO/HS? How did it feel? Is that what I want?
I spend a worthwhile amount of time adjusting my mind back to the reboot state.
I've come up with this for me to say to myself OUTLOUD "Subconscious mind, please listen to me. I understand that you think watching porn and receiving porn dopamine is necessary for my survival because dopamine is the reward I receive for eating, drinking, procreating and staying alive. But porn is not keeping me alive, on the contrary it is slowing killing me by taking my valuable time and preventing me from succeeding. Thank you for looking after me so well, thank you for getting me to this point in my life, but from now on I need you to stop pornography coming into my life. I know together, we will succeed"