Day 13 - No PMO/HS/M/O
Wow, this has been a hell of a struggle. I'm hanging in their, but just. I always knew this part of the reboot is hard but I don't think it's ever been this difficult before. The darkest hour is always just before the dawn. And its dark and as dark as its ever been. As much as I want to give in and go on to a hook up site I equally don't want to. The conflict almost makes me feel like crying.
I've even thought about going on a porn site and PMO which I haven't done for at least 4 months and stopped thinking about long ago. I thought if I am going to go on a HS, I would just M/O to prevent that from happening because after climax I would lose interest. But then I will probably replace hook up sites with M/O, like I replaced porn with hook up sites. Its a strategy to get me to where I want to be but its far from optimal and I might eventually give up and that will keep me in a place where I don't want to be anymore.
I don't want to stay here in this hard place. This struggle not to PMO/HS/M/O is really nothing compared to staying in the same place where I've been for so long. This struggle is really nothing compared to feeling like I can't abstain from PMO/HS/M/O. There is more to the symbolic representation of achieving this challenge than first glance presents. Its kind of a statement of success and failure and my self worth. I've taken so many hits from this, so many times I couldn't abstain, constantly undermining myself I don't know what I will feel about myself if I can't achieve this but I feel like I will never see myself with the same strength and discipline again.
I was thinking last night, success in this should be straight forward. Preparation = Success. If we are to be successful we need to spend time preparing and for this particular issue this might takes lots of time to prepare. Providing I make it through the next few days, and I think I can and will, it would justify the last 2 months of not really trying to reboot; which was a period of preparation even though I didn't realise it at the time because I was using it to answer questions about myself and what I really want.
What I found is I don't want to be ruled by porn or hook up sites or masturbation and organism. I am the master of my destiny.
This matters a lot, I'm moving forward guys.