Day 3.7 - No PMO/hook up sites/M/O
Well here I am at almost day 4 for about the 30th time.
Hi, I'm TheGuy, and I have a problem with hook up sites and pornography. It all started way back when I was about 18 or 19 when we got the internet and I was living with my parents. I would wait for 30 minutes just to get a single photo over my 256kb modem. It was less of a hassle back then. Later, when I got high speed internet my porn usage escalated to sessions as long as 4 hours sometimes. After PMO I would feel absolutely disgusted with myself.
Someone mentioned to me yesterday, 'time is the most valuable thing' and once its gone its gone. I thought about it; what we associate with time loss, is usually things like working long hours, waiting in queues, waiting on the side of the road after your car breaks down etc. But for the average porn user, we lose literally years (do the calculation) to porn. That time we could be doing great, great, great things. Spending time with family, exercising, read a book, making love to a real man or woman, having a drink with friends and laughing about life, learning how to fly a aeroplane, curing cancer or playing golf. Become a fucken astronaut. I'm sure we could all do great things if we could only waste less time on porn.
A girl I used to know said to me 'the time we waste, isn't wasted time'. Its true for many things. Sometimes we need private time, down time to rest and relax, think and ponder, be alone, play a silly game or whatever. But one thing is for sure, PMO and hook up sites are not the good type of wasted time. They are the worst type of wasted time. They are like working over time at a thankless job, or being in a queue for hours, or a long traffic jam because they consume our health, sense of self worth and self value.
I've managed to stop browsing pornography all together for well over 3 months now. But as I stopped browsing pornography I found another release (arguably a less damaging one) in hook up sites. its not on demand, its not high speed, I can't browse hundreds of thumbnails for something I find arousing, its just chat with occasional photos. While its still a form of pornography I prefer to think of it like the old 256kb modem days.
At first I thought hook up sites were a good way to stop porn, or at least I could stop watching porn but I couldn't or perhaps didn't want to stop going to hook up sites. Now I've been on here (including in previous threads) for well over 6 months. I am still browsing hook up sites, still chatting, still getting photos and still...well you know the rest of the story.
And I am still here. Soon I will find a way.