In answer to what was yesterday the perfect storm:
* Actively refuse adds on IG and FB, selecting 'Not Interested', if they're of an allurring and suggestive nature.
* Continue to proactively alter IG algorithms to steer away from the provacative in the suggestion area.
* Expect that, as I continue to say No to self-soothing behaviors and exhibit self-control, the opposite sex will be more attracted to me. This will include younger and older women. I need to know how to accept that, yes as flattering, but to also keep focused. I cannot afford to take this as any kind of affirmation or validation of my person or masculinity.
* With the earliest sign of edging or self-soothing, nonjudgmentally speak outloud words that snap you out of whatever fantasy and/or rationalizations. Get up, go to office, and pray it through.
* If you take the iPhone into the restroom in the middle of the night with that intent, as you sit there, type in searches that divert away from p-subs, or even searches that equal recovery or spirituality. Again, take it into prayer, and work it out spiritually.
* If undergoing strong urges, wake up the wife, and work it out with her sexually.
* Overall, relax but sharpen your focus, while being mindful.
Still on point: no reset, and no judgement.
* Actively refuse adds on IG and FB, selecting 'Not Interested', if they're of an allurring and suggestive nature.
* Continue to proactively alter IG algorithms to steer away from the provacative in the suggestion area.
* Expect that, as I continue to say No to self-soothing behaviors and exhibit self-control, the opposite sex will be more attracted to me. This will include younger and older women. I need to know how to accept that, yes as flattering, but to also keep focused. I cannot afford to take this as any kind of affirmation or validation of my person or masculinity.
* With the earliest sign of edging or self-soothing, nonjudgmentally speak outloud words that snap you out of whatever fantasy and/or rationalizations. Get up, go to office, and pray it through.
* If you take the iPhone into the restroom in the middle of the night with that intent, as you sit there, type in searches that divert away from p-subs, or even searches that equal recovery or spirituality. Again, take it into prayer, and work it out spiritually.
* If undergoing strong urges, wake up the wife, and work it out with her sexually.
* Overall, relax but sharpen your focus, while being mindful.
Still on point: no reset, and no judgement.