Porn is not an option

[Blondie]

Mate, sorry not weighed in on yours much recently. I read your essay above about how failure is failure whichever way you look at it. We, your many followers, take a lead from you often on how things should be seen. I agree that you shouldn’t be given any form of free pass for what went wrong or if you did, so could we all. And that’s just not ok.

Having said that, please understand that there are relapses and relapses. You and I have always said that if we get to the end of our lives having watched porn, say, once every couple of years, then we can say we kicked the habit. It will have made it a painful life but it will still have been successful in its goal.

Thank you @GBS, that means a lot. I agree, what's done is done and we shouldn't make any excuses for it, however, there's always another tomorrow and that's what's important.

Thanks for all your encouragement, it's always much appreciated.

Got your back whatever.

No no, I got your back! Don't you remember this morning?

Good luck today.

My man is back at it again .

Thank you @Ezel. This made my day.

Stay strong champ.

 

[SmokenMirrors]

Almost at Saturday, king! Full respect for keeping yourself accountable, that's all part of the growth mindset. You're still the king of RN, don'y you worry about that. You got this brother

 

[Blondie]

Day 23!
Day 15 of no O

Almost at Saturday, king! Full respect for keeping yourself accountable, that's all part of the growth mindset. You're still the king of RN, don'y you worry about that. You got this brother

Thanks bother! I'm so excited. I'm almost there.

You guys all have a great porn-free Friday.

 

[Blondie]

Day 24!
Day 16 of no O

Thanks everyone for all your encouragement. This forum is amazing. It feels great to be this far out again. Now, I have my sights set on day 30.

One day at a time.

You all have a great porn-free Saturday.

 

[TryingHarder]

I don't think we take this battle seriously enough. Is this not life and death we're dealing with here?

Well, I do. I know we're all supposed to be easy on ourselves, self-care, etc, but ultimately it comes down to winning a battle. If I allow myself to stray from the path, it won't end well. My motto is still "no relapses, no retreat" and while that might seem rigid to some, it's certainly working for me.

 

[swimmer97]

Day 24!
Day 16 of no O

Thanks everyone for all your encouragement. This forum is amazing. It feels great to be this far out again. Now, I have my sights set on day 30.

One day at a time.

You all have a great porn-free Saturday.

the cowboy is back on his horse, this is just the start

 

[Escapeandnevercomeback]

Day 24!
Day 16 of no O

Thanks everyone for all your encouragement. This forum is amazing. It feels great to be this far out again. Now, I have my sights set on day 30.

One day at a time.

You all have a great porn-free Saturday.

Things are moving man! 30 days is right there. It will definitely come but it can only be done one day at a time.

 

[forceisstrong2]

Day 24!
Day 16 of no O

Thanks everyone for all your encouragement. This forum is amazing. It feels great to be this far out again. Now, I have my sights set on day 30.

One day at a time.

You all have a great porn-free Saturday.

Hey, totally agree, this forum is amazing. You know what... we'll never meet each other, never know each others names, never know what the others look like, but nevertheless there is a connection and whether it is giving a thumbs up or a encouraging post, we really are making a positive difference to each others lives.

Guess I'm trying to say... love all you guys and fuck porn!!!

 

[Blondie]

Day 25
Day 17 of no O

Well, I do. I know we're all supposed to be easy on ourselves, self-care, etc, but ultimately it comes down to winning a battle. If I allow myself to stray from the path, it won't end well. My motto is still "no relapses, no retreat" and while that might seem rigid to some, it's certainly working for me.

Yes I hear you there @TryingHarder. I definitely agree, you don't win battles (especially this one!) while staying in the safe-zone and telling yourself you're doing great and that all you need is "love". Love is good and we should all love ourselves, but LOVE doesn't get you to the top of Everest, hard work and training for years on end does.

I've always loved your tag "no relapses, no retreat". It's like the Chuck Norris of ex porn user quotes.

Best brother.

the cowboy is back on his horse, this is just the start

Thanks brother. Keep killing it.

Things are moving man! 30 days is right there. It will definitely come but it can only be done one day at a time.

Thanks @Escapeandnevercomeback, I appreciate it. You're right about that, one day at a time.

Best

Hey, totally agree, this forum is amazing. You know what... we'll never meet each other, never know each others names, never know what the others look like, but nevertheless there is a connection and whether it is giving a thumbs up or a encouraging post, we really are making a positive difference to each others lives.

Guess I'm trying to say... love all you guys and fuck porn!!!

This made my day yesterday, and you're totally right about that @forceisstrong2.

Love you guys too, and fuck porn!

 

[Ezel]

1 month is just around the corner, you keep doing your thing champ.

 

[Blondie]

Day 26
Day 18 of no O

Thank you @Ezel. I'm getting close to that target, which means I need to be on my utmost guard. Life is truly better on this side of the fence. I was thinking about that these last few days. Life is alreadly dramatic enough with its ups and downs etc. but going back to porn these last few months, just ramps up that drama to unheard of levels. Drama in the bedroom. Drama in my mind. Drama in my day to day life. Lack of focus. Lack of pursuing my goals as I was doing beforehand. Just chaos in general. The question isn't what are the benefits of quitting porn, but rather, what are the positives to looking at porn? Looking at my life these last two months compared to my life these last two years, there isn't even ONE benefit to looking at porn. It's pure chaos.

Best brother

I'm feeling a little under the weather this weekend but still feeling strong. Also, it feels great to be almost 20 days no O. Even though I'm sick I'm feeling good in that department.

You all have a good porn-free Monday

 

[Androg]

Day 26
Day 18 of no O

Thank you @Ezel. I'm getting close to that target, which means I need to be on my utmost guard. Life is truly better on this side of the fence. I was thinking about that these last few days. Life is alreadly dramatic enough with its ups and downs etc. but going back to porn these last few months, just ramps up that drama to unheard of levels. Drama in the bedroom. Drama in my mind. Drama in my day to day life. Lack of focus. Lack of pursuing my goals as I was doing beforehand. Just chaos in general. The question isn't what are the benefits of quitting porn, but rather, what are the positives to looking at porn? Looking at my life these last two months compared to my life these last two years, there isn't even ONE benefit to looking at porn. It's pure chaos.

Best brother

I'm feeling a little under the weather this weekend but still feeling strong. Also, it feels great to be almost 20 days no O. Even though I'm sick I'm feeling good in that department.

You all have a good porn-free Monday

Hope you feel better soon.

 

[Blondie]

Hope you feel better soon.

Thanks @Androg

 

[Ezel]

I'm feeling a little under the weather this weekend but still feeling strong.

get well soon champion.

 

[Blondie]

Thanks brother, so far I'm feeling a little better than yesterday.

 

[GBS]

Never ever forget, you inspire. Past tense and present.

 

[Galatians51]

but going back to porn these last few months, just ramps up that drama to unheard of levels. Drama in the bedroom. Drama in my mind. Drama in my day to day life. Lack of focus. Lack of pursuing my goals as I was doing beforehand. Just chaos in general. The question isn't what are the benefits of quitting porn, but rather, what are the positives to looking at porn? Looking at my life these last two months compared to my life these last two years, there isn't even ONE benefit to looking at porn. It's pure chaos.

I totally agree man, porn makes everything worse.

 

[First_step_thousand_miles]

Day 26
Day 18 of no O

Thank you @Ezel. I'm getting close to that target, which means I need to be on my utmost guard. Life is truly better on this side of the fence. I was thinking about that these last few days. Life is alreadly dramatic enough with its ups and downs etc. but going back to porn these last few months, just ramps up that drama to unheard of levels. Drama in the bedroom. Drama in my mind. Drama in my day to day life. Lack of focus. Lack of pursuing my goals as I was doing beforehand. Just chaos in general. The question isn't what are the benefits of quitting porn, but rather, what are the positives to looking at porn? Looking at my life these last two months compared to my life these last two years, there isn't even ONE benefit to looking at porn. It's pure chaos.

Best brother

I'm feeling a little under the weather this weekend but still feeling strong. Also, it feels great to be almost 20 days no O. Even though I'm sick I'm feeling good in that department.

You all have a good porn-free Monday

Keep it up brother! The thing that I've found helps me stay away from porn is asking myself, what would life be like if I continued to fall into this temptation in 10 years?

I remember this quote vividly from Gabe Deem: "Porn will never satisfy you, it will only lead you to a place where you can't satisfy anyone and it'll rob all the love and joy you could ever have in your heart." Scary stuff but sometimes exactly what we need to get better

 

[Blondie]

Day 27
Day 19 of no O

Never ever forget, you inspire. Past tense and present.

Thank you sir, same to you.

I totally agree man, porn makes everything worse.

Yes yes it does. Thanks brother!

The thing that I've found helps me stay away from porn is asking myself, what would life be like if I continued to fall into this temptation in 10 years?

That's a great mindset, thank you @First_step_thousand_miles.

I remember this quote vividly from Gabe Deem: "Porn will never satisfy you, it will only lead you to a place where you can't satisfy anyone and it'll rob all the love and joy you could ever have in your heart." Scary stuff but sometimes exactly what we need to get better

That's a great quote, and yes, sometimes we need to hear the scary stuff, in fact, probably a lot more than we like.

Keep killing it man. Love ya.

 

[Blondie]

Day 28
Day 20 of no O

Two more days to go! I'm still taking my daily cold showers too I just stopped writing them down. I must say I've really grown to love them. I'm also feeling good with 20 days of semen in me, but since I've been sick there's been nothing going on in the bedroom so it hasn't been very hard to get to this number. However, now that I'm feeling better we'll see if I can keep it up! I don't want to promise anything though because I hate breaking promises. Nevertheless, I do promise NO porn.

You all have a good porn-free Wednesday.