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@First_step_thousand_miles! Yes to me, it always clears up after three months or so. Sure, there's the occasional urge, but the strength of them after three or so months is so diminished, that it becomes easier in general. And you're right to point out, the cleaner the streak, the faster the urges leave.
I was thinking about this the last few days, did I mess up my big streak because of an urge, or was it really just the emotional weight of the nonsense with my parents? I think it was the latter plus some of the stuff I had kept to myself all that last year (not porn related) that was eating me up inside, that finally caused me to stumble last fall. But, it doesn't really matter, it's over and done and time to move on, and I have.
Love you man.
Yeah I get this. But I think it's both having the right thoughts about yourself AND doing the action. You can't feel "good" without the other (as you mentioned recently). So much of today's talk is about having a positive attitude or what not, which is good, but that's only half the equation, conveniently the half that sells millions of books! The other part, is the hard work and getting up and doing something, anything for that matter, to get yourself feeling good about yourself on the long term. Do you feel like a winner by getting an A? Or do you feeling like a winner being a person who works their ass off to get an A? I can attest that getting the A does feel good, but it is the work, that is, my actions, that really make me feel like a winner, the other part is determined by a professor which is out of my control.
I do think we need to fix our thoughts, which is why wrote that a few days ago, especially for myself. I've been really struggling with stress from school, and my thoughts have not been always healthy. However, over the last few days, I've also started to act like a "winner" again. Studying all day long. Writing at all hours of the night. Pushing through my insane fears, many coming from my childhood, and moving on no matter the negative thoughts. And sure enough, both yesterday and today, I'm starting to feel like a winner again and my thoughts have become more positive overall, even in class today, making a mistake in front of the class didn't destroy me, and I bounced back quickly, because I knew I had put in the work.
So is it the chicken or the egg? Or the thought or the action? I think it's the actions, but no one wants to say that, because most don't want to hear that.
Well, back to work.
Love you
@Escapeandnevercomeback.
I realize this didn't exactly address what you were talking about, but this is what's on my mind. But yes, we do need to deal with our thoughts too, but I think action is everything.
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