Yes this can be frustrating, and I can tell you, it does get better as you go further on this journey.It frustrates me. I can't walk for a minute without thinking about sexual acts and so on. Hope this goes away a bit.
Great to hear!- In general I felt really happy today and kept smiling. I have a lot of energy. WOW!
There's nothing wrong with random flings, but yes, if this is how you feel afterwards, it would probably be best to find a sexual partner. And it wouldn't have to be long term one either necessarily, just not the ups and downs of hookups is what you need.No hook ups. I can't host. So looking for them is unnecessary. Even though I enjoyed past hook ups in the moment, they are forgetable and made me feel more lonely at the end.
I think this is good. Having a purpose in life besides getting women is what you need. A man walking around checking out everything that moves is really not a man. Now as you say, if one is available and is right in front of you and seems inviting, then go for it. Most likely, you're probably not too good looking or bad looking, most of us are pretty average in the looks department, and that's okay. Eventually, you'll find someone who you'll click with and all the worrying will be gone.1. Don't look at women if there is no chance of interaction. Meaning, if a girl crosses me but is in a bit of a distance. DON'T LOOK. If I see someone interesting and she seems friendly I will talk to her. A simple hi, how are you. Try to lose the sexual thoughts that come up. Don't daydream, don't actively think of them. This is imagination. Not real. You want to know real things about the girl that sits across you in the train? TALK TO HER.
Learning to shift your thoughts in the direction you want them to go is an important skill to develop during recovery. It will serve you in other areas of your life as well.Day /
- Heavy gay thoughts about being in a relationship. Also, I have been thinking about one girl from the gym yesterday. She woreand she is still on my mind. I have to get through this.very tight leggings