a_strange_boy
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I'm not saying you should stay away from them, but it might be a bit much if you work with video games and then go home and spend a good deal of your time playing them, no?
a_strange_boy said:I'm not saying you should stay away from them, but it might be a bit much if you work with video games and then go home and spend a good deal of your time playing them, no?
Also, do you guys think that video games can have a bad impact on this reboot progress?
I was considering taking up meditations and some basic yoga poses in the morning before going to work, don't really know if I'll have enough time though because I don't want to lose good hours of sleep.
a_strange_boy said:Hey man, I'd be interested in reading what some of the spiritual articles have to say about MO? Any chance you could provide a link to any?!
I was considering taking up meditations and some basic yoga poses in the morning before going to work, don't really know if I'll have enough time though because I don't want to lose good hours of sleep.
I did a beginners course in meditation once, and I've done a good deal of yoga over the past 6 or 7 years, so I might have some help on this. Remember that meditation doesn't need to be sitting down for two hours and trying to chase away any thoughts from your brain...this goes back to what I said about doing some work, no matter how small, is still better than doing no work. If you can sit down, even for 3 minutes before going to work in the morning, I bet after a week or so, you'll come to need those 3 minutes as part of your morning routine. And if you find that's the case, then perhaps you can up it to 5 minutes etc.
It can be so beneficial to just sit down for a few minutes, uninterrupted, calm your body and try and just let thoughts flow through your head. There's something about it for me which I can only describe as clearing up brain-clutter. I would definitely recommend it.
As for the yoga, I have some sheets which I could easily scan and link you to, which basically breakdown the entire Ashtanga primary sequence. I have a sheet for a 15 minute practice, 30 minute practice and 45 minute practice. I'd be more than happy to do that for you?! I'm not a particularly spiritual person, but I've found yoga can be great for clearing your mind, for getting a bit of a sweat going and getting your blood flowing, without exhausting you. Let me know if you'd be interest in these!
noises1990 said:So I guess this is the entry where I talk about my progress... Honestly, on the physical side I guess I'm better. Although I'm having some issues with sleep (not insomnia, I just get to bed really late) I think I'm ok. My workouts at the gym are improving, although cardio is a bit heavier for my body (used to run 8-9 km, and now I only enjoy about 7,5 km) but this I guess is normal with the low calories diet I'm having (herbalife ftw).
At work it appears that I'm more focused, today achieving a much greater number of "bugs" submitted and a joyfulness in doing it. Overall I guess I'm getting more positive and optimistic, but sometimes I really wonder when will I be able to be and feel "normal" again.
The thought of having sex right now although it is very appealing to me, it seems to still scare me somehow although anxiety has reduced lately. Guess I'm just sad that this happened to me and I'm angry because I let it happen... F*ck PMO! F*ck MO!
On a brighter side, I'm very enthusiastic because tomorrow I'm going for a mountain trip for four days <3 Really think it'll be awesome... Need some time off to reconnect with nature and positive vibes around me! Hope I'll get to visit the forum till I get back though... Seems that this community really helps and there's a lot of nice people around. Feels great to find others going through what you're going...
Well, good night guys, since here is already 1:34 AM! See you soon! Stay strong! Don't give in your urges, they can not control you! Empower yourselves and be the best version of yourselves!
Fight the good fight and remember that the fapper never wins!
Hey man! Thanks a lot for taking interest in my story. Yeah, I cant say i m totally satisfied with my job. Indeed this could have helped me to PMO excessively. But While on the path to "freedom" i guess i ll learn to enjoy my job more.jkkk said:Hey Adrian,
Have a great and safe trip to the mountains, sounds pretty awesome.
I now looked through your whole journal and these are my thoughts.
I relate to your resolve of fighting for your girlfriend. It is also my main motivation to reboot and learn (or maybe discover is a better word) how to truly enjoy sex life.
I might be looking too much into detail here, but is seems to me that you have a recurrent issue with being somewhat dissatisfied with your work. Am I correct? You mentioned it somewhere in your posts, that there are issues at work that bother you. I just wonder whether you feel that this affects you.
I'm only asking because that is some kind of a topic for me. I think some of us who have problems with PMO are probably likely to be dissatisfied with life in general. Work as a pretty important part of most of our lives gets into the picture here. It's also down to the fact that stereotypically we as men are expected to achieve success and achieve it quickly. I think we often think that is what people, and what's most important girls (wives, partners), want from us. This is pretty much living under some kind of pressure that PMO is supposed to relieve, at least to many of our minds: medication PMOing, as they say. Not sure if that is anything that has to do with you? Does it? Maybe there are others out there who have similar thoughts? Actually, this pressure might come from work life, but as well from expectations about how you fare in college or at the university or anyhow.
Yeah, believe me that I m never returning to my old habbits. Hell no! Even if my gf leaves me now due to my "issue" (i would not judge her for doing so) i m not gonna start PMOing again...SETI said:Hey there, you are making good progress! Porn will never give the satisfaction we need. We need love and acceptance and even thou porn always accepts us, it never loves us. Its a big show to cover our own fear. What if the pictures could talk to us and tell us we were pathetic? We would probably not look for long. Deep down we know we are good and lovable, but somehow we forget that. Such a big chance we have to get to know ourselves and others more deeply! Also, thanks for being supportive and caring about the rest of us!